r/AskMen Agender Dec 01 '22

What did your father teach you?

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u/amrg2890 Dec 01 '22 Hugz

Not to trust people, specially him.

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u/Remarkable_Ad3890 Dec 01 '22

Damn that one hurts

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '22

Same

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u/juxtaposedfate Dec 01 '22

Learned the same lesson and I've made sure to make sure my daughter can trust me no matter what.

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u/Exciting-String-3171 Dec 01 '22

well you are a great father and im glad that your daughter has you as a father

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u/Exciting-String-3171 Dec 01 '22

exactly what i was going to say. me personally, my father preyed on little girls and even ended raping one in his family. he taught me to never trust anyone, not even family.

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u/sundustin Dec 02 '22

Hell yeah!

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u/SgtTaco18 Dec 01 '22 Take My Energy

I'm 26 and halfway across the globe from my Dad. I love him immensely. He's taught me so much but these are the top ones that stick in my mind.

-Always be nice to maintainence staff, you never know when you'll need their help with something.

-A true relationship is a partnership, not just a series of transactions. Know your worth.

-You don't need to be great at everything, just do your honest best and let the chips fall knowing you did all you can.

-Failure is OK. Giving up is not.

-There's always someone who can help. You just need to have the guts to ask for it.

-Its OK to not be OK sometimes.

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u/el_cid_viscoso Male (it/filth) Dec 01 '22

Damn! That guy entirely deserves your love and praise.

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u/nickelcobalt-can Dec 01 '22

Do math correctly or get hit with a belt.

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u/Aggravating_Client36 Dec 01 '22

MATH IS MATH !!!!!

WHY ARE YOU SO STUPID ?!?!?!

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u/working_class_tired Dec 01 '22

Fuck that's brutal mate.

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u/nickelcobalt-can Dec 01 '22

It sounds brutal now, but kinda normal in the country where I grow up. I remember my brother and I often cry when we do our assignments. But I have no grudge with my father, he's a good man and I miss him.

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u/Peruvian-in-TX Dec 01 '22

He's your father so hard to keep a grudge, but that's still fucked up. He was.lazy, I hope you do better with your kids if you ever have any.

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u/working_class_tired Dec 01 '22

Where you from mate?

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u/nickelcobalt-can Dec 01 '22

Philippines, but I live in Canada now.

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u/working_class_tired Dec 01 '22

Yeah righto....sounds tough but probably a cultural thing I guess

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u/Deep_Coffee9118 Male Dec 01 '22

What not to do, as a father... 😅

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u/ballistic-dumbass Dec 01 '22

oooof, that one hurt. hope you are okay mate

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u/3GeezHonda Male Dec 01 '22

You don't need to show off to earn people's respect.

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u/Dell_Hell Dec 01 '22

When it comes to sales contracts and credit agreements - " what the big print giveth, the fine print taketh away."

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u/fighterpilotace1 Male Dec 01 '22

Y'all have dads???

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u/trashit6969 Dec 01 '22

Mine taught me that when you go out for milk, no need to come back home. Nice move dad.

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u/Casio_Bing Dec 01 '22

Umm..... Son?

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u/HammerOfDawnn Dec 02 '22

I feel that. I have a sperm donor out there bullshitting somewhere like so many others. I was fortunate enough to have a father figure take up the mantle until he passed when I was 13.

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u/PracticeAsleep Dec 01 '22

How to fish. How to skate and play hockey. How to shake hands. How to be a gentleman. He also taught me how to apply a wrist lock, and that if you break the bone located behind the ear ( called the corinoid process) it will result in an instant knock out. I loved my dad.

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u/ChutneyRiggins Male Dec 01 '22

How to manage finances and get rich slowly.

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u/welkinator Dec 01 '22

You can't put too much pepper on steak while grilling. I dunno... seems like you could... The question doesn't seem to require that he taught me anything useful. Oh, wait... I have another: always keep your head warm and your feet dry - he was an infantryman in WWII.

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u/DarthGayAgenda Dec 01 '22

He always used to say my mouth would get my ass in trouble. He predicted the right words, just not the correct connotation.

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u/SandmanAwaits Dec 01 '22

Not much at all, I had to teach myself the ‘manly’ things in life & Mum taught me the life lessons.

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u/korevis Male Dec 01 '22 edited Dec 01 '22

"Most men dont reproduce but most women do" That's pretty much it outside of how to throw a jab and gaurd my face

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u/SilverSpotter Dec 01 '22 Wholesome

For most of my life, and I suppose for most of his life, my dad struggled with various disabilities. I don't remember all the names of what ailed him, but I remember dyslexia and "spinal stenosis". I know that one gave him a lot of pain, among other things. To top it off, he was depressed, frustrated with himself, and grew up abused. He never reflected that pain onto my brother, my mom, nor I though. Instead, he helped us laugh and spent as much time with us, making memories. He wrote a book, and though it never got published, he was still proud of his work (I swear it was a fan fiction of "Dragonheart" and "X-Men"). He graduated from college in his fifties, getting his associates degree in art.

What I learned from him were many things, but the thing that sticks out the most is how he taught us to steer away from hate. It felt more personal than learning "acceptance". He celebrated the achievements of others while some people would grumble over petty differences. To him, the differences among us weren't meant to be boarders that divided "us and them", but just the pages of a different book. We can like that book or not, but the contents of one book shouldn't dictate the value of another book.

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u/Mr_Toopins Dec 01 '22

If you don't work, you don't eat.

If you don't eat, you don't shit.

If you don't shit, you die.

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '22

That the line for a pack of cigarettes is 27 years long.

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u/trashit6969 Dec 01 '22

Must be the same for milk. 45 years long. Store must be out.

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u/Slow-Down_Turbo Dec 01 '22

How to use a scale.

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u/Top-Lead-670 Dec 01 '22

The quadratic formula.

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u/Top_Data4002 Dec 01 '22

A good work ethic. Most importantly to be a good understanding loving father, don't verbally abuse your children and stay involved. He was none of those qualities other than work ethic.

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u/Peruvian-in-TX Dec 01 '22

Much like mine, he more taught me what not to do than the other way around

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u/oneworkaholic Dec 01 '22
  1. How to hold a flashlight.
  2. Ignore and be distant with everyone making it hard to form relationships and friendships 😎

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u/MistakesAndFlakes Dec 01 '22

Lucky. My dad never told me how to hold a flashlight, just told me it was in the wrong spot.

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u/realhotchicken Dec 01 '22
  1. Reading books is the best thing you can do for yourself.
  2. Joining gangs is the worst thing you can for yourself.
  3. Don't judge a book by its cover

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u/Zonerds Dec 01 '22
  1. Do judge a gang by its cover

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u/SadSickSoul Dec 01 '22

That you can get away with a lot by being charismatic and likeable, including being an awful person to those closest you.

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u/wheezilyBody12 Dec 01 '22

how to workout correctly at home :)

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u/-Blixx- Dec 01 '22 edited Dec 01 '22
  1. Love at first sight does exist. When you know you know.

  2. Wash up before dinner.

  3. Sometimes the best thing to do is stop talking and go to work.

  4. When a parent say they’d like to buy you a car but can’t, sometimes they don’t say the other half of the sentence for 30 years: I’d like to buy you a car but I can’t afford letting you not know how to make money

  5. Always carry a pair of boots in the trunk of the car and keep a set of winter clothes from Labor Day to Memorial Day.

  6. If someone asks for help, it’s a good thing to help them if it doesn’t hurt you much.

  7. Cows don’t take holidays or vacations and computers are easy work.

  8. (And this one I don’t know that I agree with) don’t retire too early, it’s boring.

  9. Life is easier if you know more than the other guy and easier still if he doesn’t know that you know more.

  10. Selective hearing is a wonderful tool.

I capped myself at 10 and I’m not sure I got the best ones. Just the first ones that came to mind.

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u/GulfCoast_Ty Dec 01 '22

Idiots with alcohol can ruin alot of lives

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u/Apprehensive-Wing894 Dec 01 '22

How to be a man, success.

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u/johnnystorm223 Male Dec 01 '22

nothing. he left when I was a toddler.

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u/Bill-Shatners-Penis Dec 01 '22

How to hurt people.

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u/Matseye1r Dec 01 '22

I learned from day 1 almost that you either become like someone or you become the opposite.

Ive lived my life doing everything in my power to not become him. To not hold hatred in my heart.

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u/FlexodusPrime Dec 01 '22

Prostitutes are like a box of chocolates. You have to pay more for the good ones

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u/Kronbopulus Dec 01 '22

“ life sucks and then you die”

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u/shilaylaypumpano Dec 01 '22
  1. how to drive
  2. how to pick out produce
  3. not whine

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u/notsureoftheanswer Dec 01 '22

It's his way or the highway 🛣

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u/Top_Data4002 Dec 01 '22

Also never tell him the nuns beat you or you'd get a second beating.

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u/Xionus Dec 01 '22

Adults aren't perfect and don't always know wtf they're talking about.

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u/RicatdoMeow Dec 01 '22

he pretty much just taught me to be nice to people and i espacially try to be like him when it comes to socializing because he's has a large circle and everytime we go out people would say hi to my dad and my dad would have 0 idea who they are and he also was able to get some quite high positions just becauses of his connections

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u/nocturnaltumenscence Dec 01 '22

Mostly addiction .

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u/HammerOfDawnn Dec 02 '22

Dad here, kids 10 with Autism and pretty wicked ADHD. Been clean a good while now. I’m fucking terrified that kiddo will walk that path. My non existent biological dad as well as his entire side of family are all addicts. Even with him absent since birth, I followed him to a degree with terrifying similarities. We really do love our kids. We don’t know how this happened either. Sorry you had to experience the exact thing that haunts me. Hope you’re well.

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u/azuth89 Dec 01 '22
  1. How to learn. Anything he couldn't answer he'd help me find out. "Why?" was never an annoying question to him.

  2. Anything is a skill you can practice and none of it is off limits to anyone. Whether it's soccer, plumbing or calculus.

  3. You don't have to promise the world but you do have to deliver what you promise.

  4. You can let a LOT of things slide, most things don't matter much, but when it does matter you take a stand with no apologies.

  5. People remember, but they especially remember the bad. One negative outcome or experience can erase dozens of good ones.

  6. You are what you do. What you say, think or feel is nothing compared to the consequences of your actions.

...and honestly a bunch of other shit but these are probably the most important.

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u/Zestyclose-Ant-2496 Dec 01 '22

We live in a digital age, never pay someone to do something that you can look up a tutorial to do yourself

That, and he also hammered into my head that having a career you enjoy is better than earning the most money. This man worked as an oilfield driver his entire life. He made good money, but he worked from sun up to sundown. I barely remember being able to spend much time with him. His work was part of what drove him and my mom apart. He's the reason I've been able to pursue a career I want to do instead of a career others want me to do

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u/Asoto408 Dec 01 '22

Nothing. He chose not to raise me. One lesson I taught myself is to not be him when my child is born.

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u/ChemDude999 Dec 01 '22

How to not be around 😂

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u/Successful-Depth5404 Dec 01 '22

Not to be like him

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u/Own_Commercial8311 Dec 01 '22

To whinge and complain about their children and act like they never said anything when questioned

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u/LeekThink Dec 01 '22

I like how only both sides of the extremes exist here. Either he’s amazingly good or incredibly bad.

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u/liquor_up Dec 01 '22

My father gave me a sense of humor as well as how to tie a noose.

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u/brianmtq Dec 01 '22

How women can get shit done without men. All the respect and love for single moms out there ❤️

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u/Comprehensive-Egg102 Dec 01 '22

I haven't meet my father for 18 years.

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u/meeseekstodie137 Dec 01 '22

not to make decisions based on ego and that clear, precise communication is very important to a healthy relationship, he always just assumed I should know to do things for him and would get mad if I didn't do things when and how he thought I should do them (one of his favorite lines growing up was that he "shouldn't have to manage me" and when asked why I couldn't do it at a later time it would be "it just needs to be done"), and that you don't have to see immediate results for something to be worth doing (he never valued my academic pursuits because I didn't get into music, so if I was writing a paper or studying, he just assumed I was playing videogames and wanted me to do whatever chores he assumed I should instinctively do), basically, just how to not raise children or be in any kind of relationship with someone

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u/FreshKittyPowPow Dec 01 '22

I’ll still never forget the “talk” with him when I was 11 about the birds and the bees.

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '22

A complete command of the English language.

How to find something to criticize about literally anyone.

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u/Deadhead56 Dec 01 '22

To treat people how I want to be treated.

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u/RealityOfPain Dec 01 '22

Be there for your children, teach them how to be tough and emotionally available. Learned through the lack of.

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u/Green-Circles Dec 01 '22

How not to deal with anger & frustration.

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u/Broken_BiryaniBoy Dec 01 '22

Dont be like him..He hurt my mother a lot but he do love us...he is beyond help

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u/xanxbar Dec 01 '22

How to admit your wrong and take accountability for it

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u/SomeoneFetchAPriest Dec 01 '22

My father taught me to kill the sunflower.

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u/Ay-Bee-Sea Dec 01 '22

- don't gamble
- work with the people around you, not against them

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u/Equivalent-Ad-1927 Dec 01 '22

To ask questions

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u/punkman01 Dec 01 '22

My father has been dead for 13 yrs. He taught me that honesty and integrity are everything. Without them you are nothing. He showed me what it means to be a father and a husband. He took the roles seriously. My father was a relatively poor man and reserved and quiet. But to me he was a real man.

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u/Fossil_Relocator Dec 01 '22

Respect, people, not the positions they are in. Many an asshole made it to the boardroom and many good people are doing it tough.

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u/Sleekie_Mleb Dec 01 '22

Idk, never had one. 🥲

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u/Archduke_of_Memes Dec 01 '22

How to quickly and accurately identify dysfunctional relationships and behaviors. From watching him.

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u/CapeSloth Just a guy that exists for some reason. Hi Dec 01 '22

Just because things in life get difficult, it doesn't mean you should give up. He told me that when I was a kid and I still follow that advice all these years later. :)

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u/dragonreborn72 Dec 01 '22

Never tell your mother anything

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u/mixelydian Dec 01 '22

Self sacrifice

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u/Mandala1069 Dec 01 '22

How to be a man, support your family and be a good husband.

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u/Outnabout3535325 Dec 01 '22

he taught me how to learn life on my own kinda worked i guess out of the 3 of his kids im the only successful one his first is an absolute abject loser and his second is a drunk and im a pothead banker lol

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u/Snowbattt Male Dec 01 '22

How to not be a father and that I never want to have kids.

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u/zukatex Dec 01 '22

Don’t date a girl with an onlyfans.

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u/FayrisDraconis Dec 01 '22

Don't expect anything positive from anyone and react with distrust to basically anything.

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u/Deep-Ad-8869 Dec 01 '22

Don’t make the same marital mistakes I did!

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u/ekimlive Dec 01 '22

I'm hard on my Dad because I can go through a laundry list of things he didn't do. What I've learned though is that you can only do so much with what you have available. All things considered, he is a decent man. You can do a lot of right with some common decency.

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u/RepresentativePeak46 Dec 01 '22

My father was not the best father growing up. He did not show any affection, and he was just in the house instead of working. My mother did that for me and my brother. I was always skeptic about what the values he taught us, because he does not practice what he preach. Then he and my mother got separated. I had no choice but to be the "father" of our family and that made me realize that he does not want us to be like him so he tried to empose what he did not learn when he was in my age. Fortunately, our bond is stronger than before, despite not living together for a while now.

"Focus on the message, not the messenger" this makes a lot of sense to me now.

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u/DBL236 Dec 01 '22

I don’t think he meant to do it, but he taught me that men can be smart, cultured, sensitive, romantic even. That sex and love are not at odds.

He also taught me that we have to endure the pain life puts on our path and I may have taken that a little too far.

I had an idealized image of him that took a big hit recently after a talk with my mother about their divorce. Now I see that he fucked up quite a bit and that so much of what he taught me came from a place of regret.

And I look at my own life and my many, many mistakes, and I look at my son, and pray to God I can spare him from what I’m going through without scaring him the opposite way…

Typing this moved me to tears. I love you dad. I miss you so fucking much. I hope we can meet again some day.

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u/neonroli47 Dec 01 '22

To find the fun in mundane stuff.

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u/theNarutardd Male Dec 01 '22

It's ok to judge your parents and remove them from your life. You do not owe them a single crap, in fact they owe you so much for bringing you to life

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u/FuckTumblrMan Dec 01 '22

How to yell at my problems with a volume that can be heard half a mile away

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u/Bob_knots Dec 01 '22

It doesn’t matter what you do in life for a living, as long as you put your responsibilities first, family and kids.

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u/wishmydadtaughtmemoe Dec 01 '22

To pull back the foreskin when peeing. Not much else I remember.

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u/thegrammarnerd Dec 01 '22

To not be like him. He's basically the perfect example of what not to become.

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u/pghhotfire Dec 01 '22

Like money but never love it.

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u/Phoenix_lth Dec 01 '22

My dad's alcoholic and passed way with liver disease.So,I just learned from him not to addicted to alcohol.

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u/Moopdaddy Dec 01 '22

Life will be hard, always get up and keep moving. Most people quit easily, don’t let that be an option for you.

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u/LogJamminWithTheBros Dec 01 '22

Never work more than 40 hours a week unless the job is paying you 35 an hour minimum.

He had a warped perspective from how much money his union job made him. Now I only work 60 hours a week for 29 an hour!

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u/Not_that_wire Dec 01 '22

Curiosity and Compassion and what it means to be a parent

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u/spiked_macaroon Dec 01 '22

Stay safe, trust no one. Keep a low profile and your back to the wall.

He also taught me the telephone wiring color code when I was like 12 and I would punch down pairs on a mainframe for him on subcontracting jobs.

He taught me to turn the other cheek and just make your wife happy. Which I've had to unlearn after a decade of marriage to a narcissist.

He taught me how to drive. And to play pitch and cribbage.

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u/bregenzboy99 Dec 01 '22

How to choose my words wisely to avoid misunderstandings

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u/hockeybag7 Dec 01 '22

That you can interlock 2 box wrenches to get more torque.

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u/meitz88 Dec 01 '22

How to drive a car, drain the oil from the gearbix when your grandpa fucked the clutch up, how to be an ass, how to be oblivious to ones own lack of talent.

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u/Statistician_Visual Dec 01 '22

How to save money.

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u/Always_Trying01 Dec 01 '22

Having children will make you absolutely miserable.

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u/ZdCole Dec 01 '22

How to communicate like an adult

The key is to think about what he would do, and then do the opposite! 100% foolproof. Hasn't let me down yet.

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u/hotsizzler Dec 01 '22

That I have to do everything perfectly, or hide when I didn't.

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '22

Your career does not define who you are

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u/Valzar1954 Dec 01 '22

Work 8 hours a day. Sleep 8 hours a day. Not the same 8 hours.

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u/THE_GREAT_PICKLE Male Dec 01 '22

Be kind and respectful. Not just to women, but everyone. Don’t just hold open doors for women, but everyone for instance. We’re all people.

Also woodworking. That’s been really helpful for me.

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u/Simplemente_Jade Dec 01 '22

Martial arts, scuba diving and survival in nature. Advantages of a patriotic father. I hate my dad. I almost died from his training to be a "man"

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u/lijer71 Dec 01 '22

Admit to your mistakes

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '22

Tip workers (mainly wait staff) who gave great service the same regardless of the price of the establishment. They’re working equally as hard and sometimes harder in the cheaper places.

If you get lost, stay put.

Layer intelligently in the cold.

Drive the safest car you can afford, keep it in good shape, use good snow tires in the winter.

He didn’t drink and I respect that more and more as I get older, and now barely drink as well.

Sunscreen is important.

The world is beautiful and sometimes dangerous. Appreciate it, and be smart and reasonable with how you balance enjoying it with risk.

Trying to control people, even if well intentioned, backfires.

Show the people you love how much, and put in effort.

Love isn’t enough, unfortunately.

You can be the healthiest person and still die early of cancer. That doesn’t mean making healthy choices isn’t worth it, it’s just a reminder that life isn’t fair and you need to focus on choices that will make you happy, because you never know how much time you have.

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u/someguywhoreddits36 Dec 01 '22

Fuck that guy. Taught me how not to be. Sick fuck showed me the people closest to you can lie and manipulate like it was cash.

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u/kirylo-tur Male Dec 01 '22

To hate alcohol.

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u/MrNifty Dec 01 '22

How much of a lie the world is.

My father was a fairly shitty human being, and yet was constantly well-received by the outside world. Looked up to even by people around him. It was shocking and often frustrating the disparity that existed between who he was as a person and how people perceived him. So in that way he indirectly taught me just how shitty people are at judging a person's character, how easily roped into lies they can be because they focus only on the presentation, and never look beneath the surface, and ignore the signs.

As a child I was pretty bitter about it. It was like everyone was a moron. Just idiot after idiot in the world, everywhere you went. It took quite a bit of work on myself to break out of that deeply cynical view of the world.

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '22

He thought me alot of stuff indirectly. Even though im still young, i live alone and im doing much better than he ever did. So im using him as a bad example of how i shouldn't be doing things. Same goes for my older brother. It saddens me. But its fuel that keeps me going cause i dont want to end up like either of them.

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u/speedy-hairloss Dec 01 '22

To drink too much

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u/janyybek Dec 01 '22

Not every man is meant to be a father. Also that blood relation is not the be all end all.

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u/After-Watch732 Dec 01 '22

My father taught me how to be kind and considerate to other people.

Although I had to teach myself how to treat people who don't show kindness and respect to me.

He also taught me how NOT to woo a woman. I love my dad more than words can say, however he let people walk over him too much. Bless him.

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u/Numerous_Concert3695 Male Dec 01 '22

Too not be stupid and use common sense

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u/LogSlayer Dec 01 '22

That people can change. That there two sides to every story. And that you can say a lot by not saying anything at all.

I miss him.

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u/Kytoaster Male Dec 01 '22

Be kind and empathetic.

Don't worry about people trying to define what a "real" man is, just be yourself.

Stand up for yourself.

If you have no other choice, square up.

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u/ATM1689 Dec 01 '22

That bitterness and resentment is a lonely endeavour. How not to treat the mother of your children. Not to drink.

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u/anneau-ni-mousse Dec 01 '22

How to be self reliant and to learn things by myself

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u/Free2CIone Dec 01 '22

How not to be a father.

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u/FraankCastlee Dec 01 '22

How to hold a flashlight.

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u/jogerholzpin Dec 01 '22

To not be like him.

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u/FullSpirit9610 Dec 01 '22

Of all the things I remember him telling me, the most memorable was “Never smoke crack. Of all the drugs I have done, it was the worst.”

The only reasonable response was to never smoke crack.

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u/legit_guy_ Dec 01 '22

How to not behave as a father

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u/Comprehensive-Bee203 Dec 01 '22

You can have no money to your name and still help people out.

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u/TechnicalCellist8154 Dec 01 '22

Work, work, an work some more. There's one thing I'll always remember him telling me on my 14th birthday when he gave me my lecture telling me to get a job, it goes "be willing to do the job nobody else wants to do, then you'll always have a job to do"

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u/SaveOurLakes Dec 01 '22

Nothing, he left me! 😄

I’d like to thank YouTube specifically for getting me through these trying times and being my fatherly figure!

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u/IcyYouThere Dec 01 '22

What not to do and how not to act.

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u/SpecialistLawyer2714 Dec 01 '22

Being a try hard isn’t a bad thing, being smart is a great thing.

Being respectful and caring

Keeping your word

Always clean shave haha hated it when I was young

Other stuff too

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u/This_Professor8379 Dec 01 '22

What strangers think of you is meaningless.

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u/BMoney8600 Male Dec 01 '22

How to keep family together instead of splitting it more.

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u/Moby-Wan-Kenobi Dec 01 '22

Always start with a conversation. It might not always end with one, but that's where you start.

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u/CodyWyattMills Dec 01 '22

That he can leave his family behind and never look back.

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u/ColdHardPocketChange Dec 01 '22

What not to do in a relationship. How not to spend money.

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u/Old-Man-of-the-Sea Dec 01 '22

Reacting in anger almost exclusively results in the situation getting worse, not better.

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u/Bletymen Dec 01 '22

To repair a bunch of stuff mostly, and that i can actually do a whole lot of things on my car myself

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u/Particular_Still_719 Dec 01 '22

He taught me that most women are selfish and evil.

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u/GlorifiedGamer88 Male Dec 01 '22

How to change oil, brake pads, and a tire, all in one day.
AND
How to Measure Twice, and Cut once ;)

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u/gigapenisman Dec 01 '22

That I'm bad at holding the flashlight

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u/sleettreat Dec 01 '22

To be curious and seek answers.

As a small child, I'd ask him questions and he'd usually tell me to "look it up". Mind you this was somewhat pre-internet so I'd have to go to the library to find answers. 30 years later and I'm still very curious about so many things, but I at least know how to quench my own thirst. I love being curious and will always be grateful for the lesson he taught me. Unfortunately, it also conditioned me to believe that approaching him for help was off the table and eventually lead to my separation from the family. Quite the double edge sword.

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u/Wonderful_Gap1775 Dec 01 '22

I had an honorable father... He worked hard at a steel plant all his life.... He passed in 2013...

He showed me the ways of the force... Humility...

Also in finding hobbies to do on your down time such as watching professional sports , skateboarding and bmx flatland freestyle... How to keep and manage a stable job and self control... Self reliance....

He had 6 kids and treated us equally... He paid for 6 of us till we were 18... Not 1 time did I here him ever complain... Not 1 time....

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u/Rhyzkahl Dec 01 '22

That no matter what you do, there will always come a consequence.

Keep your word, and stay on good terms when leaving stuff; you'll never know if you are going to need the person again (don't burn your bridges).

People deserve a second chance.

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u/blueberry_yogurt_99 Dec 01 '22

Don't be like him

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u/Popcorn_likker Dec 01 '22

How to commit tax evasion

How to make concrete

How to fix a cable

How to paint a house

How to be honest and have good work ethic

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u/DocZ-1701 Dec 01 '22

Strong and healthy work ethic.

How stuff works, scientific method, skepticism, ...

Basically I am my dad. Only I also learned how to show emotion.

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '22

Some of his greats

Everyone you meet will teach you something by example, either what to do or what not to.

Don't show the person hitting you it hurts.

Choose the people who are important to you and make your own family, cut the rest out.

If you don't show your emotions on your face, people can't tell what you're thinking.

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u/my-mom_says_im_cool Dec 01 '22

What not to do (yes I'm a woman and yes I'm snoopy)

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u/Americanadian_eh Dec 01 '22

Basic carpentry, plumbing, electrical, small engine repair, woodworking, hunting, fishing. How to be a dad.

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u/Possible-Bet3981 Dec 01 '22

What red flags to look for in men. Fell inlove with this guy because he made me feel like I was home and then he assaulted me. Now I know why I fell inlove. Thanks for the lesson Dad.

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u/SirLouisPalmer Male Dec 01 '22

Not to be like him

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u/Key-Economics-3178 Dec 01 '22

Everything i know

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u/zarifex Dec 01 '22

Righty tighty, Lefty Loosey!

When changing a tire, tighten your lug nuts in a star shaped pattern but don't screw them all the way down at first - just mostly. Once you've gotten all the way around, do the star pattern once more to tighten each nut the rest of the way.

Never stop learning.

When investments go down, you didn't lose anything if you didn't sell.

Also after he grew up in a family in (what I see as) a really weird sect of conservative Protestantism, and later spending a little time as a deacon, he came to believe that it was a cardinal sin to belong to an actual organized religion.

When opening/closing water valves on your pipes at home, don't open/close all the way, instead leave about a quarter turn either way, it should help from getting the handle too tightly stuck in position the next time you come back to adjust it several months/years later.

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u/Gideon_Effect Dec 01 '22

How to be independent.

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u/UnusualFlute411 Dec 01 '22

How not to be a father.

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u/vbrown9999 Dec 01 '22

How to be pissed off, be an asshole, and have a short temper. But also how to work hard and go after what you want in life.

I'm glad he taught me to work hard, the other stuff, not so much. It's a real struggle to keep the demons inside some times.

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u/Shintaigou Dec 01 '22

My father taught me, that the only reason we learned how to fight is to protect those we love the most, not to commit acts of violence to threaten and terrorize people.

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u/Zilla664 Dec 01 '22

Wash your ass

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u/cvvk16 Dec 01 '22

Everything..... Whatever is good in my life is all because of him setting a good example for me. And supporting me through the tough times.

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u/WhenIamMrChievious Dec 01 '22

take a wide base...when you pee on the wall

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u/Hot_Wine_2004 Dec 01 '22

World is cruel