r/AskMen Female Dec 01 '22

What are foolproof signs that he isn’t interested?

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u/TheProdigalBootycall Dec 01 '22 Silver Bravo!

Sign #1: You find yourself posting on Reddit trying to figure out if he’s interested.

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u/tc6x6 Dec 01 '22

Savage

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u/UnwastingTime Dec 01 '22

and incorrect.

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '22

Elaborate

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u/UnwastingTime Dec 01 '22

Lol? UMMM Still processing how I could ever need to explain this... The original commenter A: can't read minds and B: even if they could, doesn't even know the person op is thinking about.

Men are meant to be mysterious, and even if we weren't, there's a possibility op hasn't even seriously spoken to the person they're crushing on. The roast was weak and unfunny.

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u/ericliu04 Dec 01 '22

Men are meant to be mysterious?

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u/WraithNS Dec 01 '22

OooooOOOooohhhh

I have trooOOoouble picking out oooOOoouuuutffiiiiitsss

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u/MrNifty Dec 01 '22

Men have a strong drive towards stability and predictability, towards order. If you don't see that then you're not paying attention.

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u/Starthelegend Dec 01 '22

Men are the most simple minded easy to figure out creatures of the face of this floating blue rock. If your unsure then odds are he isn’t interested.

Source: Am a man

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u/Conversationknight Dec 02 '22

You are wasting my time with your comments.

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u/UnwastingTime Dec 02 '22

Some people actually don't consider education a waste of time.

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u/working_class_tired Dec 01 '22

Discussion is over....

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u/Bighead_Bob Dec 01 '22

Perfect answer. If you have to ask...then you ought to reconsider

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u/india_chief Sup Bud? Dec 01 '22

You won. Please lock the post.

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u/Prize_Consequence568 Dec 01 '22

Nah, need too get extra karma.

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u/welch7 Dec 01 '22

specially if she's a girl, like, most guys go over the top when they like somone.

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u/Strong_Produce_6501 Dec 01 '22

That must have felt personal

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u/Not_that_wire Dec 01 '22

IKR?

Too gutless to ask the guy directly.

Prefers to ask a hoard of strangers on the internet so they can cherry-pick the parts that support her beliefs.

Seems like the guy still has a chance to dodge this screeching bullet.

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u/AdditionalAnxiety730 Dec 01 '22

haha spot on though! Men aren't that complicated. If you can't tell if he's interested...he's probably not interested

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u/No_Click_4097 Male Dec 01 '22

/thread

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u/Travis_Varga Male Dec 01 '22

When you ask him if he’ll take you on date or ask him on a date, he says no.

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u/Toran_dantai Dec 01 '22

My previous relationship I was in she asked me on a date and I said no but legit because I was busy.

We then went on a dste to r week after

Me saying no and seeing her devastated face was kinda sweet since I felt really lonly at the tim

I will be honest I miss that relationship she was loverly

Until I would become stressed out because my dad was really I’ll and lockdown fucked shut up

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u/unknownteenlol Female Dec 01 '22

and if he says that he‘s busy rn but would like to otherwise?

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u/Valentine_Villarreal Dec 01 '22 edited Dec 01 '22

Did he state why he was busy and when he expected that busy-ness to end?

If no, he's not interested.

I am very busy right now. I have a big exam on Sunday. I have pushed everyone back to mid-late December. And at the start of this week anyone I've communicated with, I have told to expect slow and potentially no replies until after my exam is over.

If he's given a very distant time in the future, say more than 2 months, if it's not for very good reason(s) he isn't interested. Especially if he lives kind of close. It's not that hard to find one lunch to meet someone you're interested in the next few weeks unless your family members are literally dying whilst you deal with deadlines.

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u/AnotherPalePianist Dec 01 '22

Good luck on your exam!

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u/Valentine_Villarreal Dec 01 '22

Thank you random internet stranger.

It's my big Japanese test - the one that employers and universities expect people to have passed.

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u/asap-flaco Dec 01 '22

Yea i im busy and live far as shit from my new girl but somehow time is made

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u/Travis_Varga Male Dec 01 '22

I don’t know. Doesn’t sound good. What does that mean? Busy until when?

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u/unknownteenlol Female Dec 01 '22

That’s where I got confused too

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u/schaznightwalker Dec 01 '22

See, if he has time to spend with friends, hang out with acquaintances then you're not up there on his priority list.

Then there are some other signs like not contacting you on his own, but talking to you when you contact. And not making any significant efforts for you. Remember there's a difference between an option and a choice

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u/Not_that_wire Dec 01 '22

He's not into you. Move on

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u/Travis_Varga Male Dec 01 '22

Yeah, it’s up to you how much you like the guy to want to pursue this and what sort of guy you want, like do you want a guy who isn’t going to ask you out after you made your interest crystal clear?

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u/MartyAndRick Dec 01 '22

If someone is interested but they’re busy for a date, they’d suggest an alternative time. “Do you have time next Monday?” is a surefire sign of engagement. It’s that simple: interested people put in effort.

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u/kevin197205 Dec 01 '22

It means he has other options, and he's looking for the best deal unfortunately.

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '22

Yeah THIS ! Move on you can do better.

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u/bingoisthebest Dec 01 '22

Sorry, but that’s definitely a no. He’s being nice about it.

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '22

When someone says they're too busy to hang out with you, it means they don't see you as a priority. "I'm too busy" is just a nice way of saying "I can think of a hundred things I would rather be doing"

When someone actually likes you, they will make time for you even if it means losing sleep. When I was still single I'd tell guys I was too busy to hang out and then spend the evening watching Netflix. When I met my husband, I would stay up past midnight talking to him on the phone even if I had to get up at six for work.

Don't waste your time on a guy who isn't that into you, you're just get your heart broken. Cut your losses and find someone who actually views you as a priority.

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u/jadedea Female Dec 01 '22

I agree! I've lost hours of sleep on men, some who didn't care about me. Learn your mistakes, and save your energy for people who deserve it, don't stop doing it because assholes exist.

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u/AllAfterIncinerators Dec 01 '22

Does he offer a concrete date and time and plan? Because otherwise he’s kicking the can down the road.

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u/brunapradd Dec 01 '22

I believe he doesn’t want to hurt your feelings, but actually he’s not interested.

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u/BravoBanter Dec 01 '22

If he likes you, you’ll know. If he doesn’t, you’ll be confused

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u/ultra_jackass Dec 01 '22

It's the male equivalent of the "friend zone", he probably feels he has better options but hasn't ruled you out completely.

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u/Redcarborundum Male Dec 01 '22

Give him 3 tries. After that it’s a definite no, and you can move on.

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '22

2 tries from me lol

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u/AffableBarkeep Man Dec 01 '22

Then it means he's busy but would like to when he isn't.

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u/Jimmy_Nuggets Dec 01 '22

If he wanted to take you on a date, he would. If he wanted to spend time with you, he would. Maybe he's talking to someone already. Maybe your just not his type. Regardless it has nothing to do with your worth or value as a person and you shouldn't take it that way.

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u/loreweaver-k Dec 01 '22

He will say yes and give you a timeline

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u/SHKSHRLN Dec 01 '22

f he is busy but still wants to see you there will mostly likely be a "I'm busy this saturday but how about next tuesday?".

You're a backup option, move on.

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u/No-Koala9938 Dec 01 '22

Don't worry about what he says. Only look at actions. People that want to will make the time or offer another time

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u/Hollow4004 Dec 01 '22

General rule is that if you're confused, he's peobably not interested.

Also, if he's texting things like "Sorry, I'm busy" without following it up with "Can we do this on Friday instead?"

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u/Questionabledes Dec 01 '22

If the guy literally shows no interest in you or is with someone else.

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '22

Ask him if he’s interested

If he says no, I think that’s a sign

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u/Dealric Dec 01 '22

Imagine it being THAT easy. And women still ask that question every single day.

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '22

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u/Dealric Dec 01 '22

It is that easy. All you have to do is ask. Take him on the side so there is only two of you and say that youre interested, than ask if he is. Youll get answer.

Most guys dont give mixed signals. You just overinterprate them.

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '22

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u/Dealric Dec 01 '22

Not right now without specific date means no. In your case it looks like he just keeps you as open option in case nothing else works out for him.

But honestly thats not confusing and I think you are fully aware. You just dont want to hear the but.

Again it still is that easy. Youre interested, you should say it and ask him. You either end up with some date or sth or not and that should tell you everything.

Trust me if guy is interested and you ask him out youll make him so happy.

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u/intothevoidfromme Dec 01 '22

Haha yeah I think I'm just in denial. I just want him to say "no, not interested" so I can stop being hopeful.

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u/Dealric Dec 01 '22

No worries its learning experience. If someone says not right now but doesnt give you clear timeline treat that always as a no.

Good for you to actually inititating and trying. Thats already a lot.

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u/GlitteringPause8 Dec 01 '22

That’s a no. If it’s not “yes I’m interested” it’s a no, regardless of any excuses or justification

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u/Hype-And-Style Dec 01 '22 edited Dec 01 '22

I think she's looking for clues so she can avoid communication.

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u/TGilly19 Dec 01 '22

you’re not wrong lol men are simple beings. very straight to the point

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u/Argentarius1 Man Dec 01 '22

Not simple. Direct and contemptuous of scheming and innuendo. They're not the same thing.

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u/stretch_123 Dec 02 '22

this line is so well read. thank you. it's in my heart forever

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u/Argentarius1 Man Dec 02 '22

My pleasure, thank you.

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u/TGilly19 Dec 01 '22

you’re right, my apologies!

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u/Argentarius1 Man Dec 01 '22

I probably said that too harshly considering I knew you didn't mean to be unkind. I'm sorry about that.

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u/TGilly19 Dec 01 '22

no worries, i appreciate the apology :)

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u/Argentarius1 Man Dec 01 '22

Thanks! I hope you continue to feel welcome here.

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u/TGilly19 Dec 01 '22

thank you so much! i follow this subreddit to get some insight & open my mind. i appreciate your kindness!

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '22

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u/TGilly19 Dec 01 '22

i’ve never met a man that beat around the bush. y’all are usually transparent with your thoughts & opinions. i respect it

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u/whyismarvelhypo Dec 01 '22

Wahmen are so complex all wanting the same 2.05 m tall, big pp, 10/10 face no hair loss. so complex.

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u/TGilly19 Dec 01 '22

i wouldn’t necessarily say that all women want the same thing. however, i do admit that we are quite complex. sometimes i don’t even understand my own emotions. i couldn’t expect a man to understand them lol

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u/islandjimmy Dec 01 '22

“Hi [crush]. You interested?” Yeah it’s that simple. /s

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u/Hannibal_Barca_ Dec 01 '22

... but is it fullproof?

I think if he says no you need to follow him home, wait until he falls asleep, break in and sneak into his bed and wake up him up asking "are you sure?" but you need to really lean into the crazy eyes when you do it.

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '22

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u/zukatex Dec 01 '22

Welcome to every man’s journey

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u/huuaaang Male Dec 01 '22

He doesn't initiate contact.

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u/Fluffy_Decision_6384 Dec 01 '22

So he's come out of his way and spoken to me once, always talks comfortably irl (I'm approaching him most of the time), good responses over text too but he takes ages to reply back and doesn't really initiate conversations and just keeps it at a hi, what's up. What's your guess on this?

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '22

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u/Fluffy_Decision_6384 Dec 01 '22

As harsh as it sounds, i think i kind of expected this answer. I really wished it could've worked out though. Thank you for your time

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '22

I know the feeling its horrible and I hope you meet someone better soon, all the best

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u/xxivtarotmagic_ Dec 01 '22

He’s just not that into you

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u/Fluffy_Decision_6384 Dec 01 '22

Noted. I'll keep it in mind and avoid further pain or confusion

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u/Fluffy_Decision_6384 Dec 01 '22

Do you think I should still try and connect more to see if he develops an interest or just leave it?

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u/huuaaang Male Dec 01 '22

Has he actually asked you out? If not, he's not interested.

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '22

Nope

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u/LogJamminWithTheBros Dec 01 '22

There are no fool proof signs, we get two x posts and people often talking about being engaged in public by men who seem to only be looking for a date or guys being friends just to attempt a relationship. This is a fair issue to have, but unless this is a baby boomer you are talking about even if a guy was interested in you it's entirely possible he is keeping his damn mouth shut so he isn't one of the "creeps".

Is a woman being flirty or just friendly? Gets hard to tell, best not do anything to make an ass out of yourself.

Best way to know if a guy isn't interested. Just ask, save everyone the trouble.

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u/obligatoryclevername Dec 01 '22 Gold

There is no foolproof method of knowing another person's mind. I don't know why I continually see posts from women who seem convinced that there is a way to read people's minds. I also see women who seem to feel that men should be able to or can read their minds.

Why do so many woman not understand that there is no such thing as mind reading. You can't know what he's thinking. He can't know what you want unless you tell them. Stop being outraged that a man didn't do what you wanted when you never told him what you wanted.

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u/Any_Relationship5590 Dec 01 '22

This is the best answer I’ve ever seen man.

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u/WaxWalk Dec 01 '22

It's a fundamental fear of confrontation and rejection. That's why women tend to have ways to avoid this. Assumptions, signals, mind reading etc...

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u/pollywantscrack76 Dec 01 '22 edited Dec 01 '22

Women love fairytales. All women would love for you to do exactly what she wants without asking. The only difference is that a grown woman will suck it up and communicate because she values the relationship. A little girl will gloss over all the things you did right and start looking for a man who can read her mind, basically a man who doesn’t exist. Men just need to be mature and examine who is in front of them.

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u/Homely_Bonfire Dec 01 '22

Not interested in which way?

Because there is a different threshold of interest for different things.

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u/unknownteenlol Female Dec 01 '22

romantically because we had a nice date and when I asked him if he would want to do it again he said that he has a lot on the plate rn but otherwise he would like to

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u/Homely_Bonfire Dec 01 '22

Yeah, he's either not into you or sees if you are able to hold out for a bit (not that I approve of such tactics but I guess it can work).

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u/HelloKittyandPizza Dec 01 '22

This cracks me up because of the other comments in the thread about how men are “direct” and don’t use innuendo. But this is clearly innuendo.

This reminds me of when men say “men operate on logic and women operate on emotion.” These are just things dudes say but they aren’t true in practice.

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u/Homely_Bonfire Dec 01 '22 edited Dec 01 '22

Well, there is logic behind it, but there is not much use to that if that logic is applied to poor concepts or bad data. And I think if that meets with insufficient skills to handle emotion (which often leads to plans changing spontaneously) you are in for a mess.

Really crucial these days to screen people for being in their right mind instead of dopamine chasing messes.

Edit: It comes down to understanding the strengths and weaknesses of different approaches, which don't change all that much depending on the sex. And I think that's where a lot of people f up, because to them it is basically just a fairy tale, no matter the mistakes in the end it will work out. It is bad information for those who want or plan to work based on logic and it is copium that runs dry when you need it the most when you acz based on your emotions.

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u/Zeohawk Dec 01 '22

They're generalities

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u/highlysensitivehuman Dec 01 '22

Why is that a tactic?

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u/Homely_Bonfire Dec 01 '22

Because it is a planned move with a predefined goal - as per the definition of the word "tactic".

I'm not saying making conscious decisions is bad either, if you think this is how to do it, knock yourself out. My point, and I guess I could have elaborated this, is that there seem to be less "risky" (risk of her dropping off) ways to find out whether she has patience or not.

Edit: If you meant to ask why someone would use such a tactic - because patience / the ability to go for delayed gratification is an important character trait to long term relationships.

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u/highlysensitivehuman Dec 01 '22

Thanks! Yes, it was a “why would you use this” question—haven’t heard of this before.

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u/Fluffy_Risk9955 Dec 01 '22

Men are overt in their communication. So assume he has a lot on his plate at the moment. Contact him in a few weeks and see if he wants to go on a date by that time.

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u/Lumpy_Branch_552 Dec 02 '22

Many men are not very overt in their communication in my experience. This man gave her an excuse. Men who are interested will figure out a time for another date.

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u/Fluffy_Risk9955 Dec 02 '22

That may be caused by two reasons. 1. Many women have pushed me too legislations in a lot of places. From a man’s perspective that made women a liability. As a result many man become careful.

  1. A lot of boys stay weak. Because they’re taught to emote more and put her with respect above his own nature.

Combine the two and you a solid reason for men becoming careful and indirect. As to not have his life ruined.

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u/spiteful-vengeance Dec 01 '22

Just let him know he can be upfront about however he feels.

There's no foolproof way to know.

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u/Bighead_Bob Dec 01 '22

Hehehe you might have had a nice date but he probably didn't... If he does have a lot on his plate and you did have a nice date he would definitely want another seeing as we enjoy things that take our minds of the hard days.

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u/amadeusz20011 Dec 01 '22

"We" ~you

You're not all men, some might find it hard to focus on the good thing when there's a lot of bad on the mind, and prefer to wait for a time that'll allow them to fully enjoy their time.

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u/lancea_longini Dec 01 '22

If he is American that means No.

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u/TheLongistGame Dec 01 '22

If he didn't try to schedule something with you, he's either not interested or playing a game. Move on.

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u/Life-Ad4309 Dec 01 '22

Sign #2- When your talking to him he is on TINDER (in person)

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u/Odd_Imagination_6617 Dec 01 '22

The first sign is that your questioning it

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u/Not-in-Kansas-anymor Dec 01 '22

When you are leaving the country for 2 months and he changes your last date from drinks to just coffee (so he has time to to the bar with the boys) after when he realizes going back to your place is not going to happen because your roommates husband DIED a few days previously and she is GRIEVING. I learned a lot about him in a few minutes.

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u/zukatex Dec 01 '22

Women look for signs because they’re too afraid because they aren’t used to rejection, men don’t ask because they’re afraid of rejection. Just ask.

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u/CapG_13 Sup Bud? Dec 01 '22

Um, maybe if he tells you that he's not interested or if he tries to avoid you.

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u/EasySundayz Dec 01 '22

You lost his trust.

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u/Cre4tiveIsMe Dec 01 '22

While I don’t believe that hostility is necessary when answering a question like this, I will say that generally speaking I don’t think men are nearly as complicated and hard to read, and I find it almost ironic that a girl would ask this question, being (generally) the one that is basically a walking fucking puzzle.

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u/punninglinguist Dec 01 '22

You ask him in plain English if he's interested, and his answer is not a simple 'Yes.'

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u/Swimming-Book-1296 Dec 01 '22

The kind of guys women tend to go for are the kind of guys that tend to have lots of options. This means he is likely to ghost etc.

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u/DMoney159 Dec 01 '22

He tells you that he's not interested. What other signs are you looking for?

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u/activeseven Dec 01 '22

He isn’t expressing any interest.

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u/neonroli47 Dec 01 '22

If it's not a "hell yes"...

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u/Ronotimy Dec 01 '22

Same signs a woman is no longer interested in the relationship. Becoming distant and cold, arguing about small things, guarding their phone, going out with friends and staying out late, drinking to excess, talking about an open relationship or three somes and last but not least lying to their SO.

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u/8livesdown Dec 01 '22

If you have to ask, do you really think the relationships is sustainable?

How long are you willing to accept benign indifference?

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u/Fancy_Grade_8363 Dec 01 '22

Read the book "He's Just Not That Into You."

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '22

Nah, she’s just trying to avoid doing the simple way of askin him out cause she’s trynna avoid hurt feelings

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u/Banzaikoowaid Bisexual Enigma Dec 01 '22

Just ask, closest you can get to the impossibility of a foolproof sign.

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u/RMZ1225 Dec 01 '22

When he says "hey, I'm not interested"

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u/Niftydantheman1 Dec 01 '22

If he wont take you OP, I will.

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u/Nattpappa Dec 01 '22

Usually when he says so

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u/Affectionate_Team679 Dec 01 '22

Men, when it comes to women are either in or out you can normally just tell

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u/WrongIsland3691 Dec 01 '22

Might just be genuinely busy, I was on a self improvement streak prior to my dating life. As a consequence I spent too much time in my own head and the gym also. If he's the introverted type I'd suggest taking it slow, and taking the down time to work on yourself.

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u/skinnytalllegend Dec 01 '22

When In doubt, throw the whole man out.

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u/nim_opet Dec 01 '22

He says he’s not interested

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u/shoyu-hot-cat Dec 01 '22

if he likes you, you won't be confused

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u/daftvaderV2 Dec 01 '22

He is looking at his phone while having sex

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u/r-shame90 Dec 01 '22

If a guy walks up to you and shows interest, do you immediately know you're "interested back"? Or do you feel surprised and actually need time to let it sink in?

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u/FenDy64 Dec 01 '22

Theres not, we cant give you a certainty.

Ask him out or wait for him to say something and reject him nicely.

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u/Warm_Gur8832 Dec 01 '22

If he’s literally running away from you as fast as possible.

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u/SnazzyPanic Dec 01 '22

Could actually mean exactly what he said, he could be really busy and doesn't have the time but he's still interested. Gauging how much and all the rest of it based on one date is foolish and immature give him some time, he'll contact you if he's still interested.

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u/Hundred00 Male Dec 01 '22

If he's interested it will be very obvious that he's interested.

If you're unsure or confused then he isn't.

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u/Deep-Ad-8869 Dec 01 '22

Blocking you from all social media platforms!

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u/8888Tigerlily Dec 01 '22

I think…..OP was trying to figure whether he is interested with her for an LTR or sex only. Even in my middle aged time, it’s confusing

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u/V_M Dec 01 '22

The part that makes men exasperated about the entire topic, is if a woman decides she will only date him if she can read his mind, and she can't read his mind, then she thinks someone else is responsible to explain her own bad decision making process to her.

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u/JLifts780 Dec 01 '22

Asking him and getting a clear yes or no

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u/Angryrobot420 Dec 01 '22

He says he is not interested.

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u/szczurman83 Dec 01 '22

If while you talk he's looking at his phone, or looking around you for his friends. If you touch his arm, he pulls back gently (or obnoxiously). When you approach him to flirt, he walks to his friends in avoidance.

Or as people have already stated, the fact that you are here questioning yourself probably answers the question. Guys are much easier to read than women. When we like someone, we are pretty damn obvious.

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u/mauify Dec 01 '22

Some men avoid the question by lying to avoid hurting feelings lol. My ex did this. So my answer would be dry ass text messages, not taking you out or planning anything and lack of communication.

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u/cork007 Dec 01 '22

He never once looked at you!

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u/nonotburton Dec 01 '22

Okay, that just sounds like y'all are both busy people.

I'd go ahead and put yourself out there. You're not going to really know how he feels unless you do. I mean, don't be weird and "confess your undying love" or whatever. (unless you're in middle school, in which case, go for it, it'll make for fantabulous cringeworthy memories)

But seriously, it's what I tell all the guys to do, just go ask her out, on a real date. Cut the bullshit with ",hanging out" or whatever. Life is shorter than you realize, ask for the date. If you get it, great! If you don't, at least you know. If he's a douche about it, better to find out now than pining away for a month.

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u/Any_Weird_8686 Male Dec 01 '22

He says to you 'Sorry, but I'm not interested.'. Completely foolproof.

He's dating/chasing someone else instead. Not 100% foolproof, but if he's an exception, pretend he's not.

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u/TheLongistGame Dec 01 '22

If you ask him out and he doesn't either 1) agree or 2) try to schedule a specific day that works for you both.

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u/iamthefyre Dec 01 '22

When he says “you deserve someone who can… and i cannot…”

Believe him. Also when he says “i cannot change xxx about me”

Believe him again. They speak their truth. We just stay in denial too long.

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u/Luffyhaymaker Dec 01 '22

Different standards for you and him, like if you do a sexual act for him and he doesn't reciprocate, ect. One I see alot on reddit

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u/Flaming_Dragon85 Dec 02 '22

A fool proof sign doesn't exist. You just have to gaage how good of friends you are if you are friends and ask

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u/Young_Hxppxe Mandem Dec 01 '22

When you ask him out and he doesn't yes (or reschedules).

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u/Machopsdontcry Dec 01 '22

No sexual jokes/compliments thrown your way.

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u/Dealric Dec 01 '22

Nah that just might mean he is shy or he isnt sure how would you react to it.

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u/asleepbydawn Dec 01 '22

And when YOU make them... he doesn't bite.

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u/Machopsdontcry Dec 01 '22

Yes but that also depends on the guy/circumstance. If the girl is looking to cheat while in a relationship he may well respect that boundary.

Either way as a girl finding somebody attracted to you isn't difficult, the hardest part is finding someone who will remain when your looks fade

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u/Next-Mode3183 Dec 01 '22

Restraining order.

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u/dudededed Dec 01 '22

You'll get the feeling that he is cold etc, and not trying to hang out with you..

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u/MeatIntelligent1921 Dec 01 '22

he doesn't do the sex thing?

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u/unknownteenlol Female Dec 01 '22

what sex thing?

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u/MeatIntelligent1921 Dec 02 '22

no idea, I have no experience

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u/Secure_West1643 Dec 01 '22

If you’re questioning If he’s interested then he’s not interested. A man that’s interested usually acts on his interest therefore you wouldn’t question it.

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u/Hype-And-Style Dec 01 '22

There aren't any foolproof signs.

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u/islandjimmy Dec 01 '22

Restraining order.

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u/Prize_Consequence568 Dec 01 '22

You go onto Reddit to ask.

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u/Think_History_5682 Dec 01 '22

Not interested in what?

A long term relationship?

Physical attraction and sex

There's 2 distinct catagories

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u/Old-Man-of-the-Sea Dec 01 '22

if he's busy and offers no alternative to when you can do things together.

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u/antifuckingeveryting Dec 01 '22

If he will only fuck you from behind so he doesn't have to look at you

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u/Cascindria Dec 02 '22

If a guy is interested in you he will make a move. Even if he’s “shy.” If he doesn’t make his interest known in an obvious way, he’s either not interested in you at all or not interested in you enough for you to consider spending time thinking about him romantically.

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u/The_Man11 Dec 02 '22

If he’s interested, you’ll know. If he’s not, you’ll be confused.

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u/These-Opposite-7929 Dec 02 '22

When he doesn't make efforts and makes you think if he is interested or not. If someone is really interested he won't let you go.

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u/Forward_Piece_5138 Dec 02 '22

Pull your g string up the small of your back and bend over in front of the guy you’re interested in, if he doesn’t react he ain’t interested

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u/nocturnaltumenscence Dec 01 '22

A lack of a heart beat !

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u/lolomotif12 Dec 01 '22

If he was you would know.

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u/nonotburton Dec 01 '22

Context? Are you already dating? Is this some guy in your friend group? Stranger you had a conversation with at a bar?

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u/unknownteenlol Female Dec 01 '22

He’s a friend of a friend. We started texting on thursday last week and went on a (maybe) date on monday. Where we spent multiple hours having deep talks but also talking about random things and getting closer and closer.

Since then we had some text exchanges but not as many as before and I usually started the conversation however he did ask some questions too. When I asked him if he wants us too meet again he said that he‘d like to but he has alot on his plate rn (not offering a time when he could probably meet again) when I then answered that I have alot going on he reacted with a sad emoji.

Now I‘m confused :/

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u/jerkITwithRIGHTYnewb Dec 01 '22

If he doesn’t touch you he’s not interested.

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u/Strong_Produce_6501 Dec 01 '22

If he doesn't reply to your texts for hours even after seeing

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u/cookiethumper_73 Dec 01 '22

He won’t eat you out first chance he has.