r/AskReddit 4d ago Take My Energy 1

What hobby is an immediate red flag?

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u/Death_in_the_desert 4d ago

Does anyone on Reddit understand what a hobby is?

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u/WindDrake 4d ago

Or a red flag.

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u/mtgtfo 4d ago Silver Gold Got the W Today I Learned

The only thing I have learnt from this thread is that redditers don’t know what the word “hobby” means.

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u/MagicJeanson 4d ago

That's just r/AskReddit .

Q: What popular person does everyone like except for you?

Average AskRedditor: The Kardashians. Yeah that's right, and I'm not afraid to say it!

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u/SkollFenrirson 4d ago edited 4d ago

Or /r/UnpopularOpinion

Pizza is good

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u/unnecessary_kindness 4d ago

As with all of these threads, you got to sort by controversial.

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u/BullCityPicker 4d ago

I was thinking that. Everything thus far has been catastrophic character flaws, not a hobby like stamp collection. (I’d consider that one “dull to me”, but nothing worse than that.)

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u/RangerBumble 4d ago

Oh man. Stamp collecting has gotten cutthroat with the move away from traditional stamps. Misprints aren't really a thing anymore but the total number of each printing in circulation is way down.

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u/bigboybeeperbelly 4d ago

See it's this sort of thing that has me convinced hobbies are all green flags. Even things that look boring turn out to be cool if you nerd out about them hard enough

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u/Aurori_Swe 4d ago

I can always listen to ANYONE talk about what ever they are super interested about because it's really a different world and you learn so much you didn't know before, sure, some of it might be totally useless outside of said hobby but damn it's engulfing to see and feel that enthusiasm.

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u/Nostalgia_ghost_ 4d ago

Right? "Prank youtubers" "posting everything on social media" "calling yourself an infulencer" why are these at the top as if they are hobbies. Thought this thread would be much more interesting.

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u/1080Pizza 4d ago

Who actually knows anyone whose hobby is "child beauty pageants".

People just list all the default reddit hate clichés. Might as well be bots.

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u/MSMB99 4d ago

I’m pretty sure everyone here missed the word “hobby”. Definitely a red flag

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u/SharpieKing69 4d ago

It’s a typical Reddit thread where people read the question and then answer the question they wish was asked so they can whip out the ol’ soapbox.

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u/FearTheGoat 4d ago

Is it just me or is this like the 23rd time this has been asked here in the last couple weeks

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u/DarylStenn 4d ago Take My Energy

Not having a hobby is a no no for me.

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u/Taylorleb 4d ago

Didn't realise how big of a reg flag this was until I dated someone with no hobbies. The biggest issue is that I have a few hobbies that I'm really passionate about! But, my job very quickly in the relationship was to entertain them at all times. Now I only date people who are at least passionate about something they do in their spare time, because I need them to understand that it's normal that I use a lot of my spare time for my hobbies

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u/GreenStorm_01 4d ago

What does one do without hobbies?

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u/evilcheesypoof 4d ago edited 4d ago

They watch TV and browse social media. There’s a surprising amount of people who fill 99% of their free time this way.

Edit: I know these are technically hobbies but they’re usually low effort things that most of us do to some extent, most people wouldn’t say that it’s their hobby. Nobody literally does nothing to pass the time, and a lot of people default to TV and social media these days. I’m on Reddit, I get it. I found it because of one of my several hobbies though haha.

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u/Coral_Blue_Number_2 4d ago

I’m finding myself addicted to my phone. Like I will put it in my room to read a book in the living room. Then I think “I need some smooth jazz because I’m annoyed by the lack of stimulation), bring the phone out, and at some point I’m just on Reddit.

I want to do my hobbies, but my phone always takes precedence.

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u/Enk1ndle 4d ago

Don't try and just stop like that, it hardly ever works. Go with "I will make myself do X hobby 30 minutes a day" or "I'll make myself go every Tuesday" and work yourself up from there.

The immediate gratification from your phone basically short circuits your brain, don't be too hard on yourself and take it slow because it's hard as hell.

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u/undangerous-367 4d ago

Some of y'all are confusing the word 'hobby' with 'habit'. They ain't the same. Lots of habits you are saying are red flags though, just not the real question here.

But in terms of hobby, a red flag hobby, in my opinion, is no hobby at all. Being only a follower of others' hobbies but not being into anything yourself is a red flag to me.

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u/Suspicious_Owls 4d ago

Cock fighting

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u/bartefaen 4d ago

Cock magic on the other hand....

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u/Tbagzyamum69420xX 4d ago

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u/KurtisC1993 4d ago

You mean in the other hand.

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u/cLawz95 4d ago

i hate saying this cause i have close friends that are into it, but often times gambling. especially since it’s usually a very thin line between hobby and addiction.

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u/fishbig010 4d ago I'm Deceased

$10 says I don't have an addition.

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u/newluna 4d ago All-Seeing Upvote Lawyer Up

Only subtraction. From your wallet.

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u/Retiredstallion 4d ago

Whenever you're in Vegas, Atlantic City, or a tribal casino you always see signs about gambling addiction. It's like "If it's no longer fun call this number."

That's a super dumb strategy. It should say something like "Tired of gambling? I bet you won't dial this number!"

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u/mohavewolfpup 4d ago

"Good Enough to show we care (not really) and virtue signal about our customers" is how I always viewed those.

Just ticking a box for the bare minimum

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u/kitx07 4d ago

It goes well with my other hobbies like excessive drinking and smoking two packs of cigs a day

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u/No_Obligation_9043 4d ago Silver Bravo!

Honestly just in here to see if anything I’m into is flagging

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u/ProfessionalPut6507 4d ago

Fortunately no Warhammer 40K so far.

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u/TexasTree 4d ago

I've always said Warhammer 40k means they have disposable income lol

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u/swordchucks1 4d ago Burning Cash

Had disposable income. Had.

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u/Stormfly 4d ago

I mean honestly... isn't that most hobbies?

There are loads that stay cheap, but 90% of them can start cheap and climb quickly as people become invested and spent their disposable income on them. If you're big into the hobby then that's where a decent chunk of your disposable income goes.

Especially if you're not using it for socialising anymore outside of your hobby, like most older men who get into wargaming.

As far as hobbies go, Warhammer isn't even very expensive. You can play Killteam or Warcry for reasonably cheap, and if you're just into modelling (like me) then it can take a while to work through anything you buy (Please ignore that grey pile of shame). It's just that you keep building more and more. Exactly like every hobby from knitting to coffee or even journalling.

Things like boats or cars or archery or hang-gliding get far more expensive far quicker.

Even Magic the Gathering tends to go crazy pretty quickly once people get into drafts or building their perfect commander deck that ruined your friendship with your casual MTG buddies...

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u/tynorex 4d ago edited 4d ago

Magic the Gathering

Thank God WotC is a terrible company or I'd probably be pulled back to magic more often. In the back of my mind I always feel a draw to go back and do a draft or two, just for old times sake.

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u/kingofrefuse 4d ago

I'd love to go do a sealed tourney again, but have zero desire to spend and build up an actual deck.

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u/Volfgang91 4d ago Giggle

I'm not into 40k myself, but I have a friend who is. I assure he doesn't really have much disposable income, he just prioritises it over luxuries like food.

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u/Auzymundius 4d ago

he doesn't really have much disposable income

Of course not - he plays Warhammer 40k

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u/BenLaParole 4d ago

no, it means they've disposed of all their income

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u/starcracker11 4d ago

My first thought seeing this title was "how long before someone mentions warhammer" Glad to see so far my hobby isn't a red flag....

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u/NostraVoluntasUnita 4d ago

Redflags only work if you meet women. /jk

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u/AdSingle6957 4d ago Gold All-Seeing Upvote Take My Energy hehehehe Bravo! LOVE! Table Slap Duck Dance Doot 🎵 Doot Awesome Answer

Semaphore

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u/Minute-Major7782 4d ago Gold All-Seeing Upvote hehehehe Table Slap Brighten My Day

That sounds like two red flags to me.

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u/JazzfanRS 4d ago

Semaphore animation (safe for work)

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u/Statakaka 4d ago

Why would you say it's safe for work? That would imply that there exists a semaphore animation that is somehow nsfw

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u/Gyrant 4d ago Gold Bravo!

I bet you wish it was somehow NSFW you semaf-whore.

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u/AmazingDottlez 4d ago

Honestly, knowing how the internet works there probably is. 😅

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u/lunchtimewaste 4d ago

Typed in "Nude Semaphore" and yes, technically got a hit. NSFW

https://adelaide.chaosads-australia.com/item/669893/

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u/kinyutaka 4d ago

I think that's referring to a different Semaphore.

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u/HardCoreCramps 4d ago edited 4d ago

Had to go to incognito mode to google that, I wasn’t sure what was going to show up.

Edit-as someone below said, “It’s a system of sending messages visually. You hold a flag in each hand and change your body position for each letter.”

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u/devdeh13 4d ago

I believe this is what the Beatles used for the cover of "Help!"

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u/ShitBritGit 4d ago

Sort of. The poses they have aren't semaphore, but were picked by the photographer because they looked 'right'.

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u/DurraSell 4d ago

And Monty Python made a quick, one-off joke about a local theater group performing Wuthering Heights in semaphore.

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u/corny16 4d ago

Semaphore is a suburb here in Adelaide, Australia. Beautiful coastal suburb with a large family friendly beach. I was extremely confused

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u/janeway_away 4d ago

This is one of those moments when I realize what a strange corner of the world I inhabit. I work in child and adult sex crime/abuse investigation and prosecution so whenever I see a weird Reddit post that I need to google but may also create a weird internet history, I go to my work phone and/or laptop to do it. They both have internet histories that are already filled with some truly crazy shit.

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u/sanjosanjo 4d ago edited 4d ago

So you purposely use your work devices for the NSFW content? You live in opposite world!

Edit: I hope you don't get in trouble with your boss for researching ancient communication techniques when you are supposed to be spending more time searching for porn.

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u/Calypsosin 4d ago

You've only reviewed 8 hours of material today. You've got to pump those numbers up.

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u/spartankelli 4d ago

A former coworker apparently would (when working from home) use his work laptop to remote into his office PC to watch porn. It's just... confounding to me.

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u/Shiva- 4d ago

His/Her job is hunting down NSFW content... so yes?

I use to know a girl who did that. She survived 3 months. She said most people survived 1 week or less.

It's a hard job. No pun intended.

And by the way, it's not always necessarily porn... I once almost got a job doing IT for something tangent (it wasn't law, like she was). It was bad man. I noped out on the first day when it was related to beheadings. (Islamic Terrorists mainly).

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u/janeway_away 4d ago edited 4d ago Take My Energy

My ability to compartmentalize is likely unhealthy. It got harder when I started having my own kids (especially the child porn with infants and infant deaths by abuse) but it also added a lot of fire. I started doing this work in 2016 and no end in sight. It also isn’t a job I ever talk about as social get togethers- it certainly is not for everyone.

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u/Shiva- 4d ago

Of course not. It's truly a Batman job.

Not something anyone should have to do or even want to do. But something the rest of us are thankful for. Because someone is doing it.

Thank you.

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u/medium_mammal 4d ago

I was in a similar position for a while back in the late 90s. I did network security stuff for a company's IT department, dealing with things like spam and malware and I'd have to manually adjust the company's email and web filters to keep employees from having to see porn spam and sites.

This meant that there would occasionally be porn on my screen, really nasty raunchy stuff. I was the only person doing this kind of stuff on my floor, and my desk was in a corner facing the wall so nobody else could see - my boss arranged this with the building manager. It was an open floor plan, so no cubicles or anything. Eventually we got a new building manager and he wanted to redo the floor plan for whatever reason. He put my desk in a position where my screen would be facing the whole rest of the office.

So when the floor plan came out, I fired off a quick email to the guy and CC'd my boss, saying "this won't work, my screen needs to face the wall because sometimes there's porn on it". Within a few minutes I got a meeting request to meet with the building manager, HR, and my boss later that day. My boss sent me a message saying "hah, this should be fun, you probably could have worded your email differently and explained your role at the company".

I went to the meeting, where HR started by saying that it was against company policy to view adult materials at the office. My boss explained there was a misunderstanding, that my job is to manage spam and malware filters and it's inevitable that adult content will show up on my screen. They said "okay thanks for letting us know, we'll fix the new floor plan". A week later they gave me my own office, with a locking door, and told me to keep my door closed at all times.

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u/departedTune 4d ago

What do you mean, Semaphore? They are essential for multithreaded programming!

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u/Fiskepudding 4d ago

Are you done yet?? I need that flag, it's my turn to do stuff

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u/SquirrelGirlVA 4d ago

And by extension, people trying to copy obviously staged videos. Case in point is the below link's story. A woman tried to copy a "destroy the old system, give them the new one" video by destroying her boyfriend's system. It cost her the relationship because he was rightfully unable to trust her after that.

https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/s2aciy/my_girlfriend_broke_my_ps4_for_a_tiktok_trend/

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u/Magic_Doge12 4d ago edited 4d ago

Another one I heard of where two people tried to recreate an obviously staged video of running at people while in a rubber mask with a knife. They tried it on a family of four, and the father drew a handgun and shot one of them in chest, who died of their injuries a few minutes later. Allegedly, in recovered audio from the incident the person who was shot could be hear saying “it was just a prank”

Source: an old Critikal video from a while back

Edit it was the person who WAS shot, not the person who shot that was saying it was just a prank

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u/Naia_Elwyn 4d ago

Allegedly, in recovered audio from the incident the person who was shot could be hear saying “it was just a prank”

As tragic as that is I can't help but chuckle at the idea of someone saying "It was just a prank, bro" with their dying breath.

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u/heyheysharon 4d ago

That's commitment to the bit.

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u/stonewall_jacked 4d ago

Bill Murray: It was my bad. I was never a very good practical joker.

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u/MikeOrtiz 4d ago

"Like...comment...subscribe..."

Dies.

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u/mrbananas 4d ago

Should be a mandatory inclusion on their tombstone for the greater good. "it was just a prank bro"

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u/pushad 4d ago

Man reading this I was sure you had to be accidentally referencing a staged video as real. Nobody could possibly be that stupid right?

I was wrong.

https://www.bbc.com/news/technology-55982131

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u/r-kellysDOODOOBUTTER 4d ago

I read this article, it says there was another one where someone killed her boyfriend because they thought a thick book would stop a bullet. Like, don't you think you'd wanna try just shooting at the book first and see if it works?

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u/DaMavster 4d ago

If it's the incident I remember, not only did they not test it first, they used a Desert Eagle pistol, which is one of the most (if not actually the most) powerful handguns available. There might be revolvers chambered in something bigger, but the Desert Eagle was specially engineered to fire huge bullets and still be magazine fed.

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u/Rurudoa 4d ago

Wasn't that the one where she shot him (holding a phone book) with a .50 cal Desert Eagle?

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u/LostWoodsInTheField 4d ago

ooo this reminds me of the Dave Sparks video where he blows up / burns down one of his employees campers that the employee was living out of. I don't know if it was staged, and it looked like the employee wasn't mad but...

They cleaned it out and when they were cleaning it out it was obvious that the employee wasn't all there, and to me it was obvious that there would be a possibility that the employee would have hidden stuff that was hard to find.

So they blew it up in front of him out in a field, then presented him with a very new used one. I would have lost my shit on that. He just burned down a mans home without even telling him they cleaned it out and thought 'Was just a prank here is a new one' was an acceptable way to behave.

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u/th30be 4d ago

What in the actual fuck.

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u/DrScienceSpaceCat 4d ago

I remember when most of them used to be wholesome and harmless, now most "pranksters" are just committing crimes and filming themselves.

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u/bassistciaran 4d ago edited 4d ago

And all the fake stuff with clickbaity titles and thumbnails. I remember a brief period where you could find some decent pranksters on youtube but eventually it fell prey to the 'post every day, optimise monetisation, louder is better, smash that like button' crowd.

I actually thought after golden era H3H3 went after the worst offenders they'd kinda go away but theres more than ever now.

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u/SalamiMommie 4d ago

“ITS JUST A PRANK BRO!!!”

Calls someone the N word, pretends to wipe poop on someone , blows an air horn near someone’s ear

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u/Scarletfapper 4d ago

My favourite was stealing their phones, because the reaction was immediate and violent, and after two or three goes the guy gave up and went home clutching all his sore parts.

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u/CatumEntanglement 4d ago

Or stealing people's luggage at an airport. There were kids trying to do that "prank" and got rightfully arrested. Also people were getting justifiably physical with the people trying to take off with their carry on suitcase. "Is just a prank" is not the get out of jail free card they think it is.

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u/Stunning-Joke-3466 4d ago

Yes, why try to steal luggage at an airport... you know the person will freak out. There's security everywhere. One or both parties will likely end up in jail or never able to fly anywhere again.... not smart at all.

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u/CatumEntanglement 4d ago

And airport crimes up the severity to felonies. Zero people believe you that "it's just a prank" when you grab someone's luggage and try to run off with it. An airport is also not the mall and security doesn't fuck around.

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u/StopCollaborate230 4d ago Spit-take

“Come on bro, it’s just a social experiment!”

literally kidnaps someone

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u/punkwalrus 4d ago

Way before Youtube, in the late 1990s, a woman I worked with said that her son was looking for a job, and wanted to work our helpdesk. The resume came across my desk, as there were a bunch of us interviewing him. I noticed he had an AOL email address listed, and out of curiosity, I looked up to see if he had a members dot aol dot com address. Back in those days, a lot of AOL users had one. This was before MySpace, even. Much to my shock, there he was. The main image on the front page was photo of him dressed in "formal goth attire," sitting on some jeweled throne, holding a plastic prop of a skull-themed goblet covered with rhinestones. "WELCOME TO MY DOMINION" it said. Lots of animated gifs of rotating skulls and fire. Okay, fine. He wouldn't be the first.

But as I went through his pages, he had a series of pages dedicated to him and his asshole friend who would pee on public objects and take photos of them. Like, newsstands, county courthouse steps, statue bases, and stuff like that. Because, you know, "fuck you, man!" The worst was when they decided to pee on a homeless guy, and bragged the guy was so drunk, he couldn't get away, so they all pissed on him while he struggled to stand up. And how fucking funny it was to them. With photos.

I was appalled. Like, holy shit, what a psychopath. So I showed this to the rest of the team, and they were also shocked and appalled. So, we didn't even interview the guy. His mom would come by and ask if we got around to interviewing him yet, and we always made some excuse, because none of us wanted to be the guy who said, "Your son and his friends have a web site where he showed pictures of things he pees on, including helpless homeless people."

I hope he grew out of that, but god damn.

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u/TensorForce 4d ago Take My Energy

Here's a story to balance that out. I was walking home from the bus stop, after school, and it was pouring. My backpack was water-proof, so I didn't mind getting wet, especially since I was about to be home anyways. It's a 15 minute walk, so I'm just walking there, drenched already, not minding it too much.

Then I see a car coming in my direction. It's some sports car, and my first thought is, "This mfer is gonna splash me for the hell of it." And I was right, they did. They drove by and splashed the hell out of me. I was already soaked, so it made absolutely no difference, but it was the principle of the thing, you know? Dick move. Anyway, I keep walking, when I see the car do a quick U-turn, head back down the street and U-turn again, heading towards me.

I thought, "Seriously? You're gonna take the trouble to splash me again??"

But the car actually slows down and this young woman walks out, into the rain, and walks up to ke and says, "I'm so sorry! I didn't see you, I didn't mean to splash you!" Then the passenger window rolls down and her friend calls out, "Hey, here's an umbrella. You can keep it. Sorry about that!!"

She explained she didn't see me, but her friend did just as I got splashed, so she turned around to apologize. I took the umbrella, but I didn't use it that day (as I've said, I was already soaked). But I kept it and still have it.

Restored my faith in humanity a little bit.

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u/Gem-xtz 4d ago

Hilarious story with a good ending

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u/TMNBortles 4d ago edited 4d ago Pot o' Coins

Saw some Mormons making their rounds in my neighborhood. It started to rain (nothing dangerous or too bad, but it would've been super annoying). I ran out to them to give them an umbrella. They were appreciative, but I then explained I'm good in the religious department, so don't bother. They seemed shocked to have help, and they also didn't end up knocking on my door. I'd say that's a win-win.

Edit: after I typed this, I realized that this story appears that I'm just congratulating myself, which I guess I am. I guess what I'm trying to say, regardless if I agree with your religion or find your knocking on my door annoying, we should all try and help each other out when it's raining.

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u/somdude04 4d ago

we should all try and help each other out when it's raining.

Unless it's Roller Coaster Tycoon. Then you set the umbrella price to max.

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u/elizabethbennetpp 4d ago

Most wholesome sports car driver.

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u/duktork 4d ago

Gambling

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u/BlueRaspberrySloth 4d ago

I work in a casino. I’ll go ahead and confirm that for ya. People get addicted to pressing the button on slots, they don’t even care about winning or losing. They just wanna feel like they might win.

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u/IcicleNips 4d ago

My friend and I were walking through the slots area of the casino and just happened to be right next to some old guy who hit the jackpot with a payout of something like $40k. We excitedly turn to the guy and start congratulating him. He turns to us, expressionless, and grumbles out "I put more in this thing than I'll ever get out" and goes right back to hitting the button. That was one of the saddest things I've ever witnessed.

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u/reapy54 4d ago

I can't enjoy casinos because I know a room full of smart people have mathematically and psychologically tuned every game to make me lose my money slowly over time while making me feel good about it.

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u/urrugger01 4d ago

Have to consider it an entertainment budget and then it's comparable to a theme park with overpriced teddybears and rides.

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u/MD_Weedman 4d ago

Some friends and I went to Atlantic City in college for a concert. We walked through the Trump casino on the way to the venue. One of the first things we saw was a line of senior citizens at the slots, each with two buckets of coins. They were each playing two slot machines at a time, one with each hand. Their hands went into the buckets and took out three quarters each, they put them in the slot machines and pulled the handle then back to the buckets for more coins. They weren't even looking at the machines and they didn't seem to give a shit about anything but feeding more coins. It blew my mind to watch them sitting in the dark in all that chaos, unsmiling, giving their money away. That plus the guy in a suit on the bench outside sobbing uncontrollably left an indelible impression on my young mind. Haven't gambled a penny since.

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u/NeedsSomeSnare 4d ago

A recent study showed that the dopamine hits your brain just before the result of the game. This means that your brain gets its chemical reward regardless of a win or a loss.

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u/BlueRaspberrySloth 4d ago

There’s a bit about this in a book I read called atomic habits. Mice killed themselves because they expected dopamine. They waited for it until they died because they were trained to expect it when they put their head through a hole.

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u/xXx_kraZn_xXx 4d ago Starry

You can feel this effect in gaming.

Extrinsic reward loops use psychological tools to draw people to their game systems, so the desire to have fun is replaced with the desire to get a reward.

People stop being able to play the game just for fun, and their enjoyment ends up being largely tied to whether there's a reward of adequate value being offered or not.

I think that's why a lot of gamers seem stuck in arrested development. They lose the drive to improve themselves solely for the sake of being a better person.

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u/acquiesce88 4d ago

I won a grand on slots on New Years Eve. It was exciting and fun, and then I stopped playing and took my winnings to take my family out for a nice dinner.

Nevertheless, watching some of the zombies nearby working 2 machines at once while chain smoking was a bit depressing. Spending their social security checks each week.

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u/pedantic_dullard 4d ago

I worked at a casino as a slot attendant. One evening a young lady won a top jackpot for $5000. Turns out it was her 21st birthday.

After we paid her, she was absolutely downright giddy, my manager looked at her and said, "We are so thrilled you came to visit and won big. Please, do yourself a favor, don't gamble a penny of that."

We saw so much loss and despair there. He was a good manager that didn't lick his management's boots.

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u/NiceGuysWin72 4d ago

That manager probably saved lives. What an angel.

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u/pedantic_dullard 4d ago edited 4d ago

We saw some heartbreaking shit.

My first Christmas Eve working there as a cashier, a lady asked me to "put extra luck" on the $100 in coins (this was in 2000 before coins were obsolete) she'd just purchased. I needed a second after she said that was her last hundred dollars and she hadn't bought her kids anything yet.

I was the first slot attendant to a $7500 win on a dime machine. The lady was in tears, but not happy ones, when I got there. Turned out she used someone else's card to enter the casino and she was on the banned list as a problem gambler. She got arrested for hitting a winning jackpot, and didn't get to keep the money.

There was a story, not mine, of a guy who dropped dead at a table or machine. When security tracked down his wife, she nonchalantly said there wasn't anything she can do about it now, but can she have his wallet.

The saddest of all things was watching an older couple over the years. When I started they were $5 slot players. Before they disappeared, they were only playing penny slots and had told several co-workers they'd sold their house and moved into a small apartment because they'd gambled it all away.

The craziest weekend play I saw was a big Asian family, young kids, parents, two sets of grandparents, spend the whole weekend there. The adults took turns supervising the kids in the public area while the rest took over a bank of Blazing 7's quarter progressive machines. The top jackpot on any of them was $450. We checked a couple of times and saw they'd played over $3000 that weekend trying to win a max of $2500. They won no jackpots, and their kids slept on metal benches that weekend.

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u/NiceGuysWin72 4d ago

Ugh...I hope you've been able to move on to something less heartbreaking. Not that working that kind of job can't be honorable, it just sounds difficult to be exposed to that kind of of thing day after day.

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u/pedantic_dullard 4d ago

I worked at the casino for 5 years. The people I worked with are amazing people. Some of the customers were fantastic people.

But I lost faith in humanity there.

Security had to call the local police to remove a guy who became combatant after being told me couldn't walk thru a medical emergency scene because it was the fastest path to his slot machine.

I got screamed at by a guy doing a cash advance on his credit card because he didn't read the fee schedule that he agreed to.

A cocktail server got kidnapped, held in a basement for several days, and raped by a guy who became obsessed with her.

A lady that liked harassing employees by asking them to rub her tattoo "for luck." It was an ejaculating dick tattoo between her nasty tits.

I kept getting tapped on the shoulder while I was clearing a space around a lady having a massive seizure, while trying to prevent her from hitting her head on solid objects. When I turned and gave a loud "WHAT," the tapper asked if she could play the credits on the machine the seizure lady fell away from.

I walked away from a lady who refused to evacuate the upper floor while an EF4/5 tornado was approaching. She started wailing that if the power went out she'd lose her credits. The tornado missed the actual casino building, but on its path it destroyed dozens of homes and related straight line winds tossed a number cars in the casino lot.

If it weren't for having amazing co-workers, it would have been mentally and emotionally unmanageable. I look upon them very fondly, but not the customers.

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u/Goose1963 4d ago

I had a friend win $600 playing black jack for the first time. When he told his father excitedly the response was "that's probably the worst thing that could've ever happened to you". My friend totally didn't understand his father's comment and took it as criticism. Several years later he's refinancing his house to pay off loans for gambling.

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u/pedantic_dullard 4d ago

I occasionally went, I loved the action on craps.

Once, and only once, I got into a hot streak throwing the dice. I started with $150, by the time I called it quits I had about $1500 in front of me and another $250-$300 all over the table. I wasn't a big risk taker, so it was a lot of small bets. Watching them sweep all that money shook my brain loose, I threw out a $50 tip and bolted.

I never had a second thought about going and betting big to increase my winnings, I knew a fluke when I saw it. The casino accidentally left my table tracking open for about twelve hours that might, which was awesome. I thought I might have $10-$15 in comps, I was shocked when they handed me 6 comps for dinner at the steak house. I called three friends and ordered two full dinners to go straight into my fridge.

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u/BlueRaspberrySloth 4d ago

That’s good to hear! I’m glad there’s people that can take advantages of their winnings. I remember one guy and his wife had came in probably two months ago and won a 14k jackpot on one of our buffalo machines. They stuck around to get some food and I don’t think I’ve seen them since. That’s the way to do it, cause any amount of money can be blown in a casino before you know it.

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u/Nakorite 4d ago

A good friend of mine won 40k the first time he went to the casino. that was basically the start of a gambling problem. He’d comfortably given back triple that amount over the next couple of years before he was banned from the casino.

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u/Morlik 4d ago

What was he banned for?

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u/Nakorite 4d ago

You can ask to be banned by the casino. We only have one casino in the city. They’ll do it for problem gamblers.

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u/coporate 4d ago All-Seeing Upvote

Collecting alcoholic beverage containers, specially the same one over and over.

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u/Grumble_pants 4d ago

Had a buddy who called theirs "beer mountain"

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u/LurkersGoneLurk 4d ago

Beer-amid.

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u/Johndough99999 4d ago

Ours was 12x12 at the base before we crushed it for beer money

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u/Burgundy_Man 4d ago

What about just collecting the cool shaped bottles or ones with nice label art? Asking for a friend...

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u/RogueCoon 4d ago

I'm a packaging engineer, I buy the alcohol just for the bottle half the time.

There's some really unique stuff people do that you almost cant believe came off a line.

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u/TheShadiestOfLurkers 4d ago

My FRIENDS garage wall has a gorgeous mural from all the peelable label art from the year I HE went silly trying fruity beers.

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u/Salamanda109 4d ago

You mean that doesn't count as interior design?

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u/rideon7 4d ago

College me in shambles

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u/AnustusGloop 4d ago

My wife and I keep particularly unique empties from liquor we purchased at duty free on vacation. It's fun to look at and reminisce like any other souvenir.

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u/Velcraft 4d ago

Collecting nail clippings

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u/Filmzaza 4d ago

Hey Kira

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u/STICH666 4d ago

I got 800 horses and I'm not afraid to use it!

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u/Ok-Consideration8864 4d ago Gold

Collecting WW2 memorabilia but only from the German side.

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u/Drewbie_snacks 4d ago Take My Energy Narwhal Salute

I have a good story about this. I had an English teacher in middle school. He was a very Jewish older man. He had a huge collection of Nazi memorabilia. I asked why? He said “I preserve this so no one ever forgets.” His grandfather and father started the collection and he kept it going. He didn’t do it out of admiration or respect but for the preservation of the terrible atrocities. He organized a trip the the St. Petersburg (FL) holocaust museum. An entire museum full of middle school kids. Nobody spoke and we ALL cried. That is all.

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u/robmox 4d ago

We went to the holocaust museum in DC when I was in 8th grade. Similar experience. Just two busses full of 8th graders crying for hours. Lol

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u/eiileenie 4d ago

I’m jewish and I am a freelance videographer and one gig I had to do was at the Holocaust Museum in DC and when they were sharing their stories I was ugly crying behind the camera. I have never cried during a job before but it hit way too close to home and I couldn’t stop myself from crying that hard. I was trying to keep quiet but it was so hard I couldn’t stop myself from breathing hard during the crying

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u/PutnamPete 4d ago

I am 62 years old. When I was a kid, every flea market had Nazi stuff. Veterans kept a lot of souvenirs. My mother bought me a dagger with "Nuremberg 1939" etched on the blade and an SS officer's ring.

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u/BeardCrumbles 4d ago

I am much younger, but flea markets STILL have Nazi stuff. I only know one vendor that actually has historical items, and I actually find it interesting. Like, hes got photos of marches in Germany alongside journals and pins and medals. But, he also has English and Soviet stuff. Those things I can see the appeal because of historical context.

I have a serious problem, though, with the ones that are selling mass produced knives emblazoned with swastikas and shit. Actual artifacts, I have no beef with the sale or collection of. A swastika flag that was made in a Chinese factory last year? No business selling that shit.

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u/The_Kobra_Kid 4d ago

"You don't have anything from the Allied side?"

"No, no. That sort of thing wouldn't interest me at all."

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u/hamletandskull 4d ago

"Should we all be racists, Father? Whats the church's position? It's so busy down on the farm I don't think I can devote meself full time to the old racism."

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u/TheOkGazoo 4d ago

"I didn't collect the ideas" Lemmy on his Nazi memorabilia collection

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u/DaBorger 4d ago edited 4d ago

My older brother once said his hobby is smoking (cigarettes). Not sure if that's a red flag or just sad.

Edit: He rolls his own because it's cheaper. He literally has to construct the cigarette to smoke it and he probably smokes 8-12 a day.

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u/thatwasntababyruth 4d ago Bravo Grande!

A Marlboro Red flag

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u/tengentopp 4d ago

has to CONSTRUCT the cigarette

Like dude this is how people have smoked for most of history lol

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u/RJNW18 4d ago

Essential oil obsession

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u/Paxmazc 4d ago

Guy who spends hours each week on IG, commenting, liking and DM'ing random models they never met.

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u/tonystarksanxieties 4d ago

Back when Facebook showed you EVERY SINGLE post a friend liked, I had to unfriend a guy, because my feed was just fuckin' full of half naked women. I think Facebook still does this, but like one or two posts here or there. Nah, this was just every other post it felt like.

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u/SpaceTimeBurrito 4d ago

I'll do you one worst.. Having a DAD that does that. Not my dad, but I frequently see gross comments left by dads who have pictures of their family all over their profiles.

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u/Holybartender83 4d ago

I have friends who are sex workers, and they all have professional IG and Twitter accounts for posting pics. The amount of comments you get from dudes like that is hilarious and somewhat sickening. I remember there was this one dude who posted on every single pic one of my friends had posted in a single day. Not just generic stuff like “hot!” or an emoji or whatever, like actually taking time to write graphic comments about exactly what he wanted to do to her for every single one.

I clicked on the guy’s profile, just out of curiosity. He describes himself as a “dad” in his bio, his pics are all of him and his family. It’s his personal goddamn IG that his friends and family all follow. And dude is here leaving graphic sexual comments on an escort’s thirst traps. I genuinely don’t understand what the fuck is wrong with some guys.

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u/Coral_Blue_Number_2 4d ago

Maybe they don’t realize their friends and family can see it? Or they don’t care.

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u/Asian-Eggroll-17 4d ago

I don’t think people know that sometimes your friends can see your comments and last week I found my friend’s dad commenting, “I love you” under some porn star’s post. He’s been single for awhile, but I wasn’t prepared for that

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u/Pimping_NZ 4d ago Starry

I’m amazed no one has said drinking yet. Sure you can be a connoisseur of fine alcohol but there are other people who think getting shitfaced to natty lights on a regular basis is a hobby. That’s just alcoholism

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u/BudgetNOPE 4d ago

I'm not having a glass of wine. I'm having SIX. It's called a "tasting" and it's classy.

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u/Stillwater215 4d ago

It’s called a “Smorgosvine” and it’s cultural and elegant

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u/LaukRidder 4d ago

Making staged tiktok vids. Hard cringe.

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u/Chaingang132 4d ago

Smoking weed and making that your personality. Like, I have nothing against weed and have done it myself many times but I just can't stand the "stoners" who's whole life revolves around it and act like it's a miracle cure for everything.

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u/TheNextBattalion 4d ago edited 4d ago

I've generally found that anyone who makes their personality about 'that one thing' is annoying as hell. Be it weed, guns, parenting, working out, sports, Warhammer, you name it.

And when they land on a new thing it's like, "oh shit, here we go again"

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u/Send_Tits_and_cats 4d ago Take My Energy

Being into history isn't a red flag, but when it translates to 'The Roman Empire was a perfect society with no issues or flaws', that's a,,,,,, Yeesh

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u/Ironlol360 4d ago

As a person being into history myself I couldn't take anyone seriously who drops such a sentence while claiming to know a lot about this topic at the same time

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u/akyriacou92 4d ago

Speaking as history nerd myself, I get put off by anyone who's overly obsessed by one particular empire or spends too much time praising it and calling it a perfect society.

I find the Incas to be a really fascinating civilization, but I don't pretend that they were a perfect society.

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u/emrimbiemri123 4d ago

I don't think being "obsessed" or very interested in one particular empire is a bad thing. Because for some time (weeks, months, maybe years) you will be interested in one and later in another, while at the same time you could be interested in one specific TV Series, or Sport. The romanticising and idealising of it and thinking of it as the perfect society even when you obviously can see the flaws makes it a red flag.

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u/AccursedQuantum 4d ago

This. Or the Byzantine Empire, or the Holy Roman Empire...

But all of those pale in comparison to wehraboos.

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u/Silver_Streak01 4d ago

What are wehraboos??

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u/RunningNumbers 4d ago

Like weebs for Nazi germany

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u/DarthSatoris 4d ago

"Wizz Zeir Superior German ENGINEEEERING!"

What they don't tell you is that the German tanks were over-engineered as fuck and when they broke down were an absolute pain to repair.

Superior tanks my ass.

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u/youstolemyname 4d ago

Over-engineering, a proud German tradition

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u/ThePainCrafter 4d ago

Teeth collection

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u/Gasserinho 4d ago

no a teeth collection is very nice very evil

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u/Thecp015 4d ago

Didn’t expect to see you in Reddithausen!

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u/MrWrestlingJr 4d ago

*Danhausen noises

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u/pm_me_triangles 4d ago

Crypto. Not "I have a few bitcoins", but the ones who think crypto will save the world.

Most cryptobros I've met were annoying, insufferable dudes.

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u/red_wild88 4d ago

I've got a friend who hounds me every time we talk to invest. I'm like, no stop I don't care.

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u/Cheaperthantherapy13 4d ago

Same. I’ve asked his wife once how he’s doing since the recent nosedive, and the look on her face made me never ask again.

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u/ecrw 4d ago

The first time I met a crypto bro in real life I had given him a ride home from a gig and he spent the entire time passionately expounding how crypto would change every aspect of the world for the better -- stopping only to talk about how all women other than his sister and his mother were whores.

Pretty on brand

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u/ToloxBoi 4d ago

Child beauty contests. Those thing are raw degeneracy, egocentrism and leave a fucking time bomb inside the child's mind.

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u/Flaky_Tumbleweed3598 4d ago

Anybody who looks at their child and thinks "I could turn you into a totstitute and sexualise you for the sake of my own pride" needs help, or a good kick.

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u/Addwon 4d ago Take My Energy Snek Bless Up

Being a reddit or discord mod

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u/Babshearth 4d ago

r/legaladvice bans attorneys who will call out bad advice from non-attorneys.

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u/gardengolf12 4d ago

You got it right on the first try. Some of the mods really suck. Aita mod is the worst!

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u/Addwon 4d ago

Their sub, their rules. YTA.

/s

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u/SamuelVimesTrained 4d ago

That would work if the rules were not randomly applied - and ever changing...

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u/Kissmyanthia1 4d ago

My favorite one is r/changemyview where the mods delete dissenting opinions. It's like the whole point of the sub.

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u/kurtpropan666 4d ago

Or r/offmychest where you get permabanned for literally no reason whatsoever. I’ve never said anything of issue there and I can’t post or comment and I’ve seen several people say the same thing. Losers running that sub need to get an ego check.

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u/runninonfumez 4d ago

I always find parents who partake in or force their kids to do beauty pageants as terrible.

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u/Superfly1911 4d ago

I dated a girl in high school that was in pageants. Her whole family was wacko.

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u/HxH101kite 4d ago edited 4d ago

So I found out our babysitter is in pageants. And to be honest she is the nicest, smartest, well rounded kid I have ever met. Trust her with our daughters life.

I asked her about it once and she instigated the entire thing, her parents were skeptical but allowed her and she has continued. And quite honestly she's made it really far and it's going to get her into a extremely good college. They make you volunteer a lot and pair that with her straight As I'm sure she will go far. Not a partier, her family is super normal.

She's probably just a statistical outlier. But honestly it's made me at least attempt to give some pageant people the benefit of the doubt.

Edit: everyone who is wondering why this helps for college. If you haven't ever applied. They ask for extra curriculars and community service. This is very unique compared to say playing soccer and doing 5 hours once a season. This is hundreds of hours all the time throughout the year.

It looks better than the average person.

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u/Arra13375 4d ago All-Seeing Upvote

In the famous words of Miss congeniality “It’s a scholarship program not a beauty pageant”

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u/dorunrun 4d ago

I think this is where there's a big difference between teen pageants and child pageants - teenagers who want to earn scholarships and get into colleges, vs parents who want to see their toddlers in makeup.

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u/calilac 4d ago

she instigated the entire thing

She wanted to be there; that makes a whole world of difference and all the luck to her for it. Like the top comment said, parents who force their kids into it are pretty terrible.

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u/WhiteyFiskk 4d ago

They're an American tradition, but not a proud one. The organisers should at least do a song about how they don't diddle kids to put people's minds at ease.

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u/NoReallyHoosierDaddy 4d ago

There is no quicker way to make people think you are diddling kids than making a song about it

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u/purplecatmeowmeow 4d ago

🎶It’s no good, diddling kids! I wouldn’t do it with anybody younger than my daughter. No little kids, gotta be big! Older than my wife, older than my daughter 🎶

anxious panting

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u/Jakeomaticmaldito 4d ago

"Why would I hang out with a cretin like that if I had something to hide?"

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u/greadfgrdd 4d ago

You go to a mortician for gruesome repairs.

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u/reddit0rial 4d ago

Probably up there with my favourite scene in that show. Genuine belly laughter stuff

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u/assbuttshitfuck69 4d ago

I got a question about you morticians. You bang the dead bodies? I imagine stuff like that goes on all the time. I mean, I don't give a shit. If I was dead you could bang me all you want. I mean, who cares? A dead body is like a piece of trash. I mean, shove as much shit in there as you want. Fill me up with cream, make a stew out of my ass. What's the big deal? Bang me, eat me, grind me up into little pieces, throw me in the river. Who gives a shit? You're dead, you're dead! Oh shit! Is my mic on?

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u/AavaMeri_247 4d ago

Anything involving humiliation of other (non-consenting) people or enjoying suffering of other people. Making mean prank videos, for example. Or watching videos like "look at this loser doing something stupid". It's different if the video creator themselves pokes fun of themselves, because they consent.

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u/disgruntled-capybara 4d ago

The recent video trend that I dislike is someone dressed as the Grinch showing up at Christmas and grabbing presents. In all the videos I've seen of it, the kids seem terrified and start shrieking and crying, and try to hide. I love to play harmless pranks on people but believe that if you play a prank on anyone, they should be laughing by the end of it. With anyone, but especially with kids, I don't think they should be frightened to the point of crying. From the way the kids act in the videos I've seen, I don't think those videos are faked or staged. They're pretty clearly in hysterics.

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