Ladies, does anyone else struggle with being happy about the small wins for women’s rights and excited about a present and future that doesn’t sexualize women’s bodies for being bodies, but is disappointed with men’s responses. See link for more examples, but on Vice’s Instagram post about this news, I see comments from men, such as “already booked my flight”, “where exactly in Berlin now? 😏”, “this is good. I just updated my passport 😜”, “boys we going to Berlin”, etc. How do we overlook this as a win for us, and not them?

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VICE on Instagram: "Berlin’s government has announced that topless swimming will soon be legally allowed for all genders in the city's public swimming pools.⁠ ⁠ The landmark decision was made to tackle the double-standards in the rules between genders. Last year, one woman was thrown out of a pool for sunbathing topless, and issued a formal complaint. Another was instructed to cover up at a public pool.⁠ ⁠ German authorities now agree that these women were the victims of discrimination, and that all nipples will be treated equally from now on.⁠ ⁠ It could be some time before our nips see the light of day across the pond: Germany has a long-established acceptance of nudity as part of Freikörperkultur (AKA “free body culture”), the idea that letting your body free in the air and sun promotes a healthier society.⁠ ⁠ Still, it’s a promising step towards gender equality. We can only hope this will make the weird stigma around our harmless little nips feel even more archaic."

This song has brought up a lot of rage/ generational rage in a lot of women and I believe everyone needs to hear it. Even as someone who lives a life not seeing much inequality directed towards me, this song has brought out the anger I feel for others who do face inequality and are in danger due to being a woman. We got to continue this fight to be equal, to be seen as human beings with the same rights.

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There’s this guy in my apt complex who has a big, high energy poodle that is always off the lead and bounding over to people/dogs. The complex has a communal garden where people can take their dogs and so I sometimes see him there. When I first moved in a year ago, my senior chihuahua, an already timid rescue, was diagnosed with a brain tumor and grew weaker for the next few months until we had to put him to sleep. This guy’s poodle would always bound over to him outside, and I could see my dog was terrified, so I’d always pick him up. I always felt that this guy was judging me about it, but thought maybe that was my imagination.

Anyway, fast forward to today. I recently got a new chihuahua puppy who is 4 months old. I have been taking him places, bringing him to puppy school, and working carefully to introduce new things to him at his pace so he can develop positive associations (going to the park, meeting new people and dogs etc.). This evening, we were out in the communal garden while it was dark and raining, which is a new experience for him, so he was a bit confused and stressed. I was trying to guide him inside when this giant poodle comes bounding over to him out of no where, and I could tell my dog (a tiny infant chihuahua) was overwhelmed, so I picked him up. This guy says “you know, they’re going to have to meet eventually.”

I don’t know why, but this comment threw me off and I couldn’t figure out why I was so upset about it once I got up to my apt. At first, I figured I was mad because there is an element of snark with a comment like that and because this guy has no right to comment on how I decide to raise my dog. But I think what is making me so furious is that I’m almost positive he would never make a comment like that to my husband. A comment which is just inherently condescending and judgy - right? Or am I reading too much into it? Thoughts?

This question randomly popped up in my head. I heard a lot of different opinions about this topic so i wanted to ask. I had a nose job and it definitely boosted my self confidence. I also wanna get my lips done but i got myself wondering if i actually need it or am i just trying to fit into the “beauty standards”.

I always hear from men how diversity programs and focusing on women in STEM is discriminatory, not needed, putting men down etc. etc.

But what I really don’t understand is - why is it, without intervention, throughout history, men have been blatantly sexist and discriminatory against woman.

When we didn’t intervene, they did not even give women the right to vote. They didn’t let women go to school to get educated. They didn’t hire women for many jobs because they were apparently men’s jobs (assistant only for women).

Why do they think that now is suddenly any different and we don’t need feminism or focus on diversity?

Can someone help me understand why sitting back and doing nothing apparently results in all that?

What’s your favorite book about/surrounding/involving feminism? Both fiction and non-fiction are welcome.

Met someone who said that as a non skandinavian born human you are not allowed to say "god jule" because this would be cultural approbriaten. For my understanding CA applies to marginalized groups. Have the danes/norwegians/swedes been surpressed by germans for centuries? Also that person said that as a non-heathen/pagan you are not allowed to wear thorhammer or other symbols because this is as well cultural approbration and blasphemy if you don't believe in it. Yet I see many non believers especially in the renessaince/medieval/metal bubble who do exactly that and I never hear people complaining about it.

I am asking here because this person claims to be a feminist and imo their behaviour mocks actual cultural approbriation issues. They however are allowed to say god jule and wear these symbols because they are a pagan witch. So, I guess every medieval/renaissance fair and metal festival is a giant event of blasphemy and cultural approbriation against heathens/pagans?

Genuine question - it came up today in a presentation, and it feels hard to get past that people instantly go "masculine = male, feminine = female"

So when talking about traits in human, like "assertive", "confident" and, "objective" on one side, and on the other "patient", "creative" and, "supportive".

What are some more "genderless" terms to use to talk about these two sides?

https://www.cleveland.com/open/2023/03/proposal-to-make-it-harder-to-amend-ohio-constitution-could-make-august-ballot-pre-empting-abortion-rights-amendment-in-november.html